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First, you and your partner are so smitten that you doubt the honeymoon period will ever end, and before you know it, you find yourselves sitting in front of a couples' therapist. Where did it go wrong? The longer you stay with someone, the more assumptions you make: "Well, I'm sure they know how much I love them by now" and "They should know how I feel or what I think at this point." Though that's true to some degree, he or she is not psychic (unless they are) and communication is still very much vital to a relationship at any stage. When we stop sharing our concerns, needs, and feelings with our partners, that's when things start to fall off. 刚开始，你和另一半如胶似漆，你甚至觉得你们的蜜月期永远不会结束，但在你意识到之前，你们俩就已经坐在夫妻治疗师面前了。到底是哪里出错了呢？与某人待在一起的时间越久，你就越容易假设："我相信，到现在为止，他/她肯定知道我有多爱他/她"或是"在一起这么久了，他/她应该知道我的感受、我的想法了。"虽然在某种程度上，这么想是对的，但他/她又不会通灵（除非他们会的话），而恋情的任何阶段，沟通都至关重要。当我们不再与另一半分享我们的担忧、需要和感受时，事情就开始变质了。 | 
