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The key to being a better conversationalist is to be an attention-giver rather than an attention-getter. This means you begin to concentrate more on the person you're speaking with, and on gratifying their needs instead of your own. 想成为侃侃而谈的人，关键是要成为一个给予关注的人，而不是获得关注的人。这意味着你要把更多的精力集中在和你讲话的人身上，满足他们的需求而不是自己的需求。 1.Use People's Names More 1.多说对方的名字 We are more likely to be in tune with others when they say our name. Dale Carnegie, an author of public speaking and interpersonal skills books, previously said our names are "the sweetest and most important sound" to us. 当别人说出我们的名字时，我们会更可能和他们保持在一个频道上。公共演讲和人际关系类书籍作者戴尔·卡耐基曾说过，对人们而言，自己的名字是“最甜美、最重要的声音”。 In conversation, you can use this to your advantage by asking for their name, and then dropping their name occasionally throughout the conversation later on. 在交谈中，你可以充分利用这一点，先询问对方的名字，然后在后面的谈话中偶尔提到它。 The ability to remember someone's name has been linked to people being more likely to help you, more likely to buy from you, and is seen as a compliment. | 
