Jenna Birch's new book sat on my desk for months before I open it. The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love is about why smart, successful independent women - the type of women men profess to want - have trouble finding steady relationships. 在我打开珍娜·伯奇的新书之前,它已经在我的桌上躺了好几个月了。The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love这本书写的是为什么聪慧、成功、独立的女性很难找到稳定的恋情--就是男人声称希望得到的那种女人。 For years my single girlfriends and I have been told by the men we date: You're everything I'm looking for, but I just don't feel it. Or: You're great, but I'm just not ready for a relationship. We've heard the same refrains for decades, in breakup talks with men in their 20s, 30s, even their 40s. I didn't want to open the book because it felt too close to home. 多年来,约会对象都对我和我的单身姐妹如是说:你就是我要找的一切,但我却感受不到。或者:你很好,但我还没准备好开始一段恋情。几十年来,20多岁、30多岁、甚至40多岁的男人都会在分手谈话中说同样的话,我们听太多遍了。我不想翻开这本书、怕扎心。 |