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全民表白日到了，你可能想把最好的赞美送给最爱的人，但很多钢铁直男在试图赞美女性时往往会弄巧成拙，伤人感情。如果你也有这样的困扰，你可能需要以下的傻瓜式操作。 Never neg 不要打压对方 Negging – a favourite of pickup artists and other shady characters – is basically an insult disguised as a compliment. 表面在赞美，实际上却是在侮辱对方，这是把妹达人最喜欢用的伎俩。 You may not mean to neg a woman, but a compliment might veer into that territory. For example: ‘You look so cute! My gran has the exact same dress!’ or ‘I adore your little snub nose.’ 有时候你在试图赞美一个女人的时候，无意中也可能贬损了对方。比如：“你看上去真可爱！我奶奶也有一条那样的裙子！”或者“我喜欢你的小蒜头鼻！” These are ‘compliments’ that will earn you a cold silence from a woman. She’s not going to notice the ‘cute’ part; it doesn’t count when she’s worried that her dress makes her look matronly or that she has an unfortunate nose. 如果你说了这些话，就等着冷场吧。对方不会注意到夸赞她的那部分，只会注意到你在说她穿着老气或者鼻子长得丑。 There are plenty of other things you can compliment her on that won’t have the added effect of making her feel insecure. | 
