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Eli Finkel, a US university professor specialising in social psychology reckons there's a very common reason modern relationships fail - and it's all about our expectations. In an interview with The Atlantic about his new book The All-or-Nothing Marriage, Finkel explained he considers many people in relationships too idealistic. 以利·芬克尔（Eli Finkel）是美国一所大学的教授，专攻社会心理学。他认为现代恋情之所以失败存在一个普遍原因--都是因为我们的期望。在《太平洋月刊》（The Atlantic）对其新书The All-or-Nothing Marriage进行采访的过程中，芬克尔解释道，他认为很多恋爱中的人都过于理想化。 Basically, rather than just being content that our partner provides us with a spare pair of hands to sort out the home and go about our daily lives, we're expecting them to be everything to us. We are, he reckons, demanding WAY too much of them. A lot of modern couples expect their significant other to love them, duh, but also to 'help them grow' and become our best selves. 基本说来，我们不仅满足于另一半在家庭生活、日常生活中帮助我们，而且还期待他们成为我们的一切。他认为，我们对另一半的要求太多了。很多现代情侣都希望他们的另一半爱他们，但同时也期望另一半能'帮助他们成长'，成为最好的自己。 | 
