|
Turn Enemies into Friends with One Little Acknowledgment 只要认识到一点就能化敌为友 Hope as you may, you’re just not going to love every person you meet. In fact, you may outright hate a few—but you don’t have to. A study coming out of the University of Groningen indicates that a little shift in the way you approach disliked people could alleviate a lot of those negative feelings. 虽然你会希望能爱上所见到的每一个人，但事实却并非如此。事实上，你可能会十分讨厌一些人----但其实你不必讨厌这些人。格罗宁根大学的一项研究表明只要你在接触你不喜欢的人时，稍微改变一下方式，就可以减轻很多的负面情感。 Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, writing for Psychology Today, examined a study conducted by psychologist Melvyn Hamstra (and his colleagues) that looked at how our biases and opinions color the way we judge others. They found that when you meet someone you have a lot in common with, you tend to make more of an effort to like them. The opposite goes for the someone you don’t have much in common with: you’ll make an effort to avoid them. 为《今日心理》写作的苏珊.克劳斯.惠特伯恩博士检测了一项研究，该研究是由心理学家梅尔文.汉姆斯塔（及其同事）开展的，研究我们的偏见和观点是如何歪曲我们对别人判断的。他们发现，当你与有很多共同点的人见面时，你会试图尽力去更喜欢这个人。但如果你与没有什么共同点的人见面，情况就恰恰相反：你会尽力去避免他。 | 
