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Sometimes in the thick of a messy and awkward prenuptial agreement negotiation, Laura A. Wasser, a Los Angeles-based family lawyer, reminds her clients: “This is not someone you got into a fender bender with. This is someone you want to spend your life with.” So be nice, for starters. Wasser pushes clients to sign all the paperwork at least a month before the wedding, but she suggests broaching the subject much earlier. “Sit down to talk with a good bottle of wine, but don’t drink so much that you end up drunk and fighting,” she says. “Bring it up when things are good, not when you’re bickering.” 有时，在一场混乱而尴尬的婚前协议谈判进行到最激烈的阶段，洛杉矶的家庭事务律师劳拉·A·瓦塞尔(Laura A. Wasser)会提醒客户：“对方不是与你发生车祸纠纷的人，而是你想要共度一生的人。”所以，首先要友善。瓦塞尔强烈建议客户在婚礼的至少一个月之前签署所有的文件，而开始讨论这个话题的时间更应早得多。“坐下来伴着一瓶上好的葡萄酒来谈，但别喝太多，免得最后喝醉了争吵起来，”她说。“在气氛愉快的时候提出这个话题，不要在发生口角的时候提。” If the idea of a prenup does not go over well, blame someone else: your parents or, if you have lawyers and business managers, your advisers. Before you hire a lawyer, though, learn about your state’s marriage and divorce laws. “It is amazing how many people go into the contract of marriage — and it is a contract — without knowing the terms,” she says. | 
