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Everyone knows that marriage takes work. That's obvious. But a huge misconception is that only BIG things will derail your marriage: infidelity, addiction, adultery, etc. Quite often, you don't see the little things chip, chip, chipping away at you once-solid relationship foundations when in reality, it's those tiny things that eventually erode your relationship from within - without you even realizing it! - until years of petty resentments finally explode. Here's a few tiny earthquakes to watch out for: 每个人都知道婚姻需要营造。这是事实。但大家都有一个误区，以为只有大事才会破坏婚姻：不忠，沉迷，等等。很多时候，是琐碎的小事削弱着你们本是牢固的关系，这些小事在你们似懂非懂的地方腐蚀掉你们的爱情，——直到很多年后，矛盾最终爆发。下面是几个你需要提防的地方： 1. Not really talking 1. 没有真心讨论 Wake-up call: Passing each other in the hallway and mumbling something about someone taking out the trash is not talking. If you don't spend quality time talking about your lives - really, truly, deeply talking about your lives, beyond the small talk and trivialties - you aren't connecting. And if you're not connecting, you're growing apart. Simple as that. 起床时间：在走廊里擦肩而过，喃喃的说着该有人去倒垃圾了。如果你们不在黄金时间谈论你们的生活——真实地，真正地，深刻地，谈论你们的生活，而不是那些无聊的琐事——你们将不会交心。然后，如果你们不能交心，你们的关系会越来越疏远。就这么简单。 | 
