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By now, you have probably seen far too many of those “why are you single” articles. Way too often, the authors treat singlehood as a disease that needs to be cured, and they tell you what you did wrong that led you to get (or stay) sick. I’ve made fun of those singles-bashing lists and also offered some more positive takes on single life in The Real Reasons for Living Single. 到目前为止，你可能已经看过太多的“为什么你单身”的文章。在很多时候，作者们对于单身是作为一种需要被治愈的疾病，并且他们告诉你你做错了什么而导致这种病态。我常取笑那些单身人士并提供一些积极的建议给仍就过着单身生活的人士。 In addition to the disease-mentality, there is something else that is troubling about those articles – they are almost always just the opinions of some outside observer. They rarely ask single people what they think about their single lives. 除了病态的心态，还有其他因素是那些文章的困扰。他们几乎都是一些外界的观察者的观点。他们很少询问单身人士他们对于自己的单身生活是如何想的。 Happily, that has changed with a new typology offered by the Polish sociologist Julita Czernecka, author of Single and the City. She asked a select group of Polish single people – 30 men and 30 women – to talk about their single lives. The people she interviewed are not a representative sample of Polish singles, so her results are more suggestive than definitive. I think they provide a good alternative, though, to people who offer nothing but their own opinion as to why other people are single. | 
