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Things Your Marriage Counselor Doesn’t Want You to Know 婚姻咨询师不希望你知道的小秘密 If you knew these things, you wouldn’t need a marriage counselor, would you? Those words comes from a few famous psychologists, psychotherapists and doctors of marrige and family counseling. 如果你了解了以下内容, 就用不着婚姻咨询师了。以下是来自几位在婚姻家庭咨询方面非常著名的心理学者、专家的话。 1) I love couples who fight in the waiting room. At least they still care about each other. If one or both of you seem indifferent, my job is a lot harder. 我喜欢看到在客厅吵架的夫妻。起码这表示他们还在乎对方。如果其中一方或双方都对对方漠不关心，情况就更加棘手了。 2) When you say your feelings “just aren’t there anymore,” I know you’re probably cheating. 如果你说，你已经对对方没有感觉了。我知道你很可能在说谎 3) Sometimes I’ll tell a couple “no sex until the next session. Don’t touch each other, period.” What I’m really hoping is that they’ll fail and feel a sense of unity from their mutual rebellion. 有时，我会告诉一对夫妻：“这个阶段就别同房，别碰对方了，就这样。”但其实我希望他们做不到，希望他们一起违背这个建议，拥有一种凝聚的感觉。 4) It may make you feel better to talk about your marriage issues with a good friend, but it will just make things worse. Never talk to outsiders about things in your marriage that you haven’t already talked about with your spouse. | 
