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It is a quandary every couple with children eventually faces: Should we fight in front of the kids? 对有孩子的夫妻终将面临这样的问题：我们该不该在孩子面前吵架？ The answer is complicated. Child psychologists who study the issue tend to say yes -- if parents can manage to argue in a healthy way. That means disagreeing respectfully and avoiding name-calling, insults, dredging up past infractions or storming off in anger, for starters. 答案不是那么简单。研究这个问题的儿童心理学家往往会回答“该”──如果父母能够做到合理争吵的话。合理争吵，首先是求同存异，并避免扣帽子、侮辱对方、提旧事或发飙。 'Kids are going to have disagreements with their friends, their peers, co-workers, ' says Patrick Davies, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester. 'If they don't witness disagreements and how they are handled in constructive ways, they are not well-equipped to go out into the world and address inevitable conflict.' 罗切斯特大学(University of Rochester)心理学教授帕特里克·戴维斯(Patrick Davies)说：“孩子们将会跟他们的朋友、同伴、同事产生分歧，如果他们没有见过分歧以及分歧的建设性处理方式，那么他们就不能做好足够的准备去闯荡世界，去处理不可避免的冲突。” | 
