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Decades of research on the science of happiness shows that there’s a big—and potentially life-altering—difference between what you think will make you happy and the things that actually do, argues University of California, Riverside psychology professor Sonja Lyubomirsky, PhD, in her fascinating new book The Myths of Happiness. 加利福利亚大学教授 Sonja Lyubomirsky在她的新书《幸福的传说》中指出，根据长期关于幸福的科学研究发现，在你觉得可以让你幸福和实际让你幸福的事物之间有着巨大差异，这样的差异有可能改变你的生活。 Myth: The right marriage will provide endless happiness. 传说：正确的婚姻会带来无尽的幸福 Science says: The average person picks up a sizeable boost in happiness when he or she gets married, but this only lasts about two years. After that, the former newlywed reverts back to his or her happiness level before the engagement. 科学表明：一般人在结婚时的幸福感会爆棚，但这只会持续2年左右。只会，新婚夫妇的幸福水准就会将回到结婚之前的水平。 Boost your bliss: Delight in your partner’s good news. According to Lyubomirsky, “the closest, most intimate, and most trusting relationships appear to be distinguished not by how partners respond to each other’s disappointments, but how they react to the good news.” When your husband shares that he’s getting promoted, reacting with joy and asking enthusiastic questions signals that you care. Being silently supportive or pointing out downsides (“Oh, you’ll have to work on weekends?”) undermines happiness. | 
