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For some reason I’ve been more aware lately of the annoying social habits of other people. Worse than that, I’ve then been noticing many of the same behaviors in myself. Cutting out these negative habits makes it simpler to foster good relationships by getting to the heart of productive communication, so why not start today? 最近我突然注意到别人一些讨厌的交际习惯，而有些习惯我自己也有。只有改掉这些不良习惯，我们才能有效沟通、培养有益的人际关系。那么还等什么呢？ 1. Seeking attention by complaining. 通过抱怨寻求关注 I spoke to someone yesterday who all but refused to talk about the positive aspects of their life. After listening to their troubles, I asked about some of the cool projects they have going on. Within two sentences, they were back to complaining about trivial things. We all need to share our troubles with friends or strangers from time to time, but don’t fall into the habit of turning conversations into your own personal dumping ground 100 percent of the time. It’s an easy way to get attention, but it’s a poor way to keep it; and it’s a poor way to view your life. 昨天我遇到几个人，满腹都是对生活的牢骚。听了抱怨后，我问他们最近有没有比较好的事情，结果应付两句后，他们又开始了鸡毛蒜皮的抱怨。当然，人都需要偶尔跟他人说说自己的烦恼，但绝不能因此养成抱怨的习惯，每次开口就只顾自己大诉苦水。虽然抱怨很容易赢得关注，但却是个坏习惯，容易使人消极看待人生。 | 
