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When a couple's marriage is on the rocks, they typically seek advice from friends, family and marriage counselors. After all, what better way to save a failing union than to call on the experts? 当婚姻亮起了红灯，夫妻一般会从朋友、家人或是婚姻顾问哪里寻求援助。情感专家也许能给大家支招，帮助问题夫妻们破镜重圆。 According to relationship expert Mort Fertel, that's precisely the wrong thing to do.“Much of the advice people get about their marriage problems is wrong. It sounds good. It makes sense. The problem is, it usually doesn’t work,” Fertel said “Reconciling a broken marriage is tricky. The process is not intuitive. You really have to be careful that the advice you’re following has proved to achieve the outcome you’re looking for.” 根据情感专家莫特.菲尔特渥的经验，在处理婚姻问题的时候有很多误区。“在处理夫妻婚姻问题的时候有许多错误的建议。这些建议看来是很好的，似乎合情合理。然而问题在于这些建议往往没有用。” 莫特.菲尔特渥表示“为夫妻提供情感帮助是一件复杂的事，你必须很小心，不能单凭直觉去帮助他们解决问题，必须确保你给他们的建议是已经被验证过行得通的。” Among the worst advice? Telling your husband or wife how you really feel. 最糟糕的婚姻问题情感建议是什么？就是告诉你太太或你先生你最真实的感受。 | 
