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You might not know it, but your controlling behaviors are making people around you batty. Here are a few ways to ease up already. 你的控制狂行为已经让你身边的人抓狂了，而你很可能毫不自知！这篇文章将告诉你如何减轻症状。 Control freaks rarely know that they are one. They believe that they are helping people with their "constructive criticism" or taking over a project because "no one else will do it right." They don't see their controlling behaviors as symptoms of what's really going on--their own anxiety has run amuck. 首先，控制狂们通常不知道自己是控制狂。他们认为自己提出“建设性意见”或干脆直接把别人的活儿揽过来做，全是因为“别人没法胜任”，而自己是在好心帮忙。然而他们却完全忽略了自己真实表现出来的症状——极度焦虑。 Irrational thoughts abound in our high stress world: If I don't get this contract, I'll get fired. If I'm not home by 6:00, I'm a terrible parent. If I don't get that raise, I suck at my job. All of these thoughts might be true, but probably not. 当人极度紧张时，他的脑子里会填满了荒唐的想法，比如：如果我谈不成这笔单子，我就会被解雇；如果我晚6点还没到家，我就是个不称职的家长；如果我没得到那个加薪机会，说明我的工作表现烂极了。这些想法中，有些的确可能发生，有些毫无根据。 | 
