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Now let’s take a look at some ways in which we can increase the levels of our own emotional intelligence so that employers will be fighting over us! [laughter] The first step is to label our own feelings rather than labelling situations or other people. We should say things like “I feel angry” instead of “this is a ridiculous situation”。 Secondly, it is very important to know the difference between a thought and a feeling. In terms of language we express thoughts by saying “I feel like” or “I feel as if” but for feelings we say “I feel” and then a feeling word, an adjective happy, angry, frustrated。 Next - and this is a crucial point - we should take more responsibility for our feelings. Instead of saying “you are making me jealous” we ought to say “I feel jealous”。 After this we need to learn how to use our feelings to help us make decisions. Ask yourselves “How will I feel if I do this?” or “How will I feel if I don’t?” 小编：提高情商就要以“自我为中心”。听起来很怪异是不是？其实不然，如果你连自己的感情、思想都弄不清楚的话，又怎么能做出正确的决定呢？又如何规划自己的未来呢？所以，从现在开始，重视自己，从自身出发。从说“这里太糟了”改成“我感觉很糟”，这样你就会想方设法地让自己感觉不糟，感觉好起来，事情就会有改变。如果你一味地认为“别人”“别处”不好的话，你永远也不会有改变的动力。 | 
