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为什么他没有再联系我？为什么我的笑话她没有笑？为什么他们不想继续说下去了？你有没有过那种感觉，或许是你做的或说的某个事破坏了你的谈话（甚至使你们的关系恶化！？）。你也许没有朋友或机器能够给你提供建议，但有一些非常普遍存在的错误你应该要注意到。通过一些自我反思和自我认识，至少可以确保你不再对你们这间的交流或是关系造成破坏。 Let's look more closely at four of the bad habits: 让我们再仔细看看这四个坏习惯： 1. Are You a Parrot? Do you find yourself just paraphrasing or repeating what the other person said?If they say, “that was a cool movie!” do you say, “Yeah, that was a really cool movie!”?Parrots act like they are having a conversation, but in reality, they rarely actually offer anything substantive.Parrots rely on echoing and paraphrasing others. Suggestion: If you find yourself just echoing what they are saying, try to offer substantive opinions or observations as well. 你是只鹦鹉吗？ 你有没有发现自己只是解释或重复其他人说过的话？如果他们说，“这真是部很棒的电影啊！”你是不是说，“是的，它“确实”是部很棒的电影！”？鹦鹉看起来像是会说话，但事实上，他们很少真正的说过什么实质性的话。鹦鹉靠的是效仿和重复别人的话。 | 
