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如果这个现象说的就是你，那么你的这种依恋类型（attachment style）在心理学上被称为害怕逃避型（fearful avoidant） Individuals with a fearful avoidant attachment style desire close relationships, but feel uncomfortable relying on others and fear being let down. Fearful avoidant is one of four key styles of attachment proposed by psychologist John Bowlby, who developed attachment theory. 害怕逃避型依恋的人渴望亲密的关系，但又会因为依赖别人而感到不舒服，并且害怕希望落空。害怕逃避型是心理学家约翰·鲍比提出的4种主要依恋类型之一。约翰·鲍比正是建立了依恋理论的那个人。 根据依恋理论，每个人婴儿时期和父母的关系，让他们在成长过程中会对别人产生不同的默认期待，总共有4种： 第一种：安全型依恋 Secure Individuals with a secure attachment style feel comfortable trusting others. They see themselves as worthy of love and support and are confident that others will support them if they need help. 安全型依恋的人可以很自然地信任别人。他们觉得自己是值得爱、值得帮助的人，并且他们相信在自己需要帮助的时候会有人来支持自己。 第二种：焦虑型依恋 Anxious Anxiously attached individuals want to rely on others, but worry that others won't support them in the way that they want. Anxiously attached individuals typically have positive evaluations of other people but tend to doubt their self-worth, which causes them to seek out the support of others but also worry about whether their feelings for others will be reciprocated. | 
