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Never neg 不要打压对方 Negging – a favourite of pickup artists and other shady characters – is basically an insult disguised as a compliment. 表面在赞美，实际上却是在侮辱对方，这是把妹达人最喜欢用的伎俩。 You may not mean to neg a woman, but a compliment might veer into that territory. For example: ‘You look so cute! My gran has the exact same dress!’ or ‘I adore your little snub nose.’ 有时候你在试图赞美一个女人的时候，无意中也可能贬损了对方。比如：“你看上去真可爱！我奶奶也有一条那样的裙子！”或者“我喜欢你的小蒜头鼻！” These are ‘compliments’ that will earn you a cold silence from a woman. She’s not going to notice the ‘cute’ part; it doesn’t count when she’s worried that her dress makes her look matronly or that she has an unfortunate nose. 如果你说了这些话，就等着冷场吧。对方不会注意到夸赞她的那部分，只会注意到你在说她穿着老气或者鼻子长得丑。 There are plenty of other things you can compliment her on that won’t have the added effect of making her feel insecure. 可以赞美的方面有很多，你完全可以做到不在赞美时打击对方。 Don’t make a joke of it 别开玩笑 Flirting can be scary at the best of times. You’re making yourself vulnerable when you do it, and it’s perfectly natural to want to offset that with humour. You want to tease a woman instead of complimenting her – but being earnest is probably the best approach when it comes to compliments. Women recognise sincerity and are grateful for it. | 
