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Asking someone to help you out can be ridiculously stressful. 向别人寻求帮助时可能压力山大. What if they feel like you're bothering them? Or using them? What if they say no, or worse, don't even bother responding? 我是不是很烦人?会不会觉得我在利用他的好意?会不会被拒,甚至连鸟都不鸟我? Those are all real possibilities (sorry). But you can increase the likelihood of getting the help you need and having the other person feel good about it by deploying what psychologists call the "rule for reciprocation." 这种担心也不是多余的(抱歉哈)。但总有两全其美的做法，让你更有可能得到帮助，帮你的人也乐在其中：心理学家称其为“交互作用法”。 | 
