生活中,我们常常要面临选择,比如选择接纳,或者拒绝。那么,究竟怎样的选择才是对我们最好的呢? I was out for my usual morning run and found myself stumbling through the late-summer heat, wishing I had taken a water bottle. I stopped under a bridge for a moment of shade, I saw two young, scruffymen standing next to their sleeping bags. One smiled and gently raised his hand as if motioning“hello” but didn’t say a word. He wasn’t asking for anything. I smiled and made the same motion back to him. 我像往常一样,早起晨跑,结果发现发现自己被夏末的热浪搞得够呛,真希望当时带了一瓶水喝。我跑到一座桥下,就这那的阴影乘了一会凉,看见两个邋遢的男人站在睡袋旁。一个微笑着轻轻举起手,好像在说“你好”,却一个字也没说。他没有要求任何东西。我微笑着和他做了同样的动作。 As I started back on my run, I thought about how much we all crave connection. In that moment, this homeless man seemed to want to connect more than he wanted food or money. 当我开始继续跑步时,我意识到我们是多么渴望与别人建立关系。在那一刻,比起他想要的食物或钱,这个无家可归的人似乎更想要人与人间的联系。 We have all had experiences of feeling separate and lonely. I have felt lonely being in a relationship that was void of emotional connection. Feeling separation doesn’t have anything to do with being alone vs. being with people — it is about the human desire to feel connected by being seen and valued by another person. |