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There is a lot of research behind what makes relationships work — and not work. To keep it short, just keep the 5 R’s in mind: 什么能造就美满的情感关系?关于这个问题的研究非常之多。简单地说，你只要记住以下五个R开头的单词： Right, Real, Rapport, Relate, Review 适量，真实，交流，相似，回顾 Let’s break them down. 下面让我们来仔细分析下。 1. Fight Right 1. 适量争吵 You might think it would be great if you could have a relationship with zero arguing. But marriages with no arguments are 35% more likely to divorce. 你也许觉得没有争吵的情感关系很棒。可是没有争吵的婚姻离婚的可能性要比适当争吵的夫妇高出35%。 Things need to be worked out and you may need to compromise.You can’t not argue and you can’t fight to the death. You need to fight right. 事情需要被解决，你们也需要互相迁就。你不能避免争论，也不能争吵到生命尽头。吵架要适量。 If you stay compassionate and show you care — even in the midst of a screaming match — you have a better shot at happiness. 如果你保持同情心，并表现出关心对方的一面，那么即使两人都在吼叫，你们也有更大的机会收获幸福。 | 
