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We say yes for many reasons. We seek validation, to be needed, or relied upon. We are good people. We care and so we give of ourselves to our families and friends. 我们回答“好”的理由有很多。我们寻求确认，想要被需要，或是被依靠。我们都是好人。我们关心他人，所以我们全心对待自己的家人和朋友。 But if we're in the habit of saying yes too often, we may find ourselves depleted, overwhelmed, depressed, or angry. I know because I've been there. 但是如果我们养成了太频繁说“好，好”的人了。我们就会发现自己竭力耗尽、不堪重负、郁郁寡欢或是生气不已。我这么说是因为我也是这么过来的。 Learning to say no protects our energy, time, and priorities. But we often say yes out of guilt. 学会说“不”维护自己的精力、时间和优先权。但是我们常常出于愧疚感说“好的”。 "Well I could do it..." “那……我来吧……” "What will they think if I say no?" “如果我说了‘不’他们会怎么想?” "I don't want to disappoint them or hurt their feelings..." “我不想让他们失望，或是伤害他们的情感……” When we say yes out of obligation, we're not taking care of ourselves and end up disappointing and hurting ourselves. Follow these simple tips to help you say no with love: | 
