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Two months ago a new client entered my office for her first coaching session. All I want is to feel happy, she said. m miserable and I focus on that misery all day long. 两个月前，一个新客户来到我的办公室参加她的第一次辅导课。我要的是感到高兴，她说，我很痛苦，而且我整天专注于怎样把自己从痛苦中解救出来。 It seemed like a fairly simple request, so we went to work. 这似乎是一个非常简单的要求，所以我们就开始了。 Week after week I witnessed the smile on my clients face becoming more consistent, more authentic. Soon she began talking about the laughter and pleasant activities that now fill her days. So I asked whether she thought that we had achieved her happiness goal. I was surprised when she said no. 几周过后，我亲眼目睹了我的客户脸上露出坚定真诚的笑容。因此她开始谈论每天充斥在身边的笑料和愉快的活动。因此我问她是否认为我们已经达到了她的幸福目标，但我很惊讶的是她说没有。 What I learned is that this vibrant woman believed that in order to characterize herself as happy she could never feel sad. To her, sadness and other unpleasant feelings are not allowed in the life of someone who defines themselves as a happy person. But that is not what the human experience is actually about. | 
