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When people say they are overloaded or cannot keep up with their todos, it is usually the result of taking on too much. Most of the time, I advise people that they need to “Say No” more often. Being able to “Say No” is key to avoiding being overcome by obligations others ask us to take on. 每当人们感到压力山大或事情总也做不完时，多半是因承受太多造成的。大部分情况下，我会建议他们多尝试“说不”。能够“说不”至关重要，可避免被别人要求帮忙的事情压垮。 There is one exception… when it comes to saying no to yourself. 但也有例外——就是千万别对自己说不。 When the going gets rough and people start buckling down, they start saying no to themselves first. After all, saying no to others is hard, saying no to yourself is easy. 遭遇困境时，人们首先会屈服，对自己说不。毕竟，拒绝别人很难开口，否定自己可就容易多了。 So, they begin denying themselves the things that keep them alive and energized. Leisure activities, sports, spending time with their family, are often the first things to go. 于是，人们开始否定那些让自己保持活力四射的事情。首当其冲的便是休闲活动、运动以及与家人共度的时光。 What is Your Hobby? 你的爱好是什么？ When people ask for advice because they are too busy at work, one of the first things I ask them is, “What is your hobby?” To which they respond, “Are you kidding? I don’t have time for a hobby!” | 
