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Most of us have at least one friend we consider toxic: the loser friend who disrupts our entire world the second they step into it. We know things would be so much easier if we cut them loose, yet we spend more time figuring out why we stay than it would take to actually leave. 大多数人都至少有一个浑身散发负能量的“有毒”的朋友：只要他们前脚踏足，我们的世界马上变得乱七八糟。我们都知道远离这样的朋友，事情会变得更加简单，其实我们已经花了太多时间去思考为什么还要留在这样的朋友身边。 Why You Have Loser Friends 为什么你有负能量的朋友 The truth is, it happens for a multitude of reasons: 实际上，有很多原因： You’ve been friends with them since you were kids. 你们是发小。 You know them so well you’re constantly justifying their behavior. 太了解他们了，所以经常评判他们的行为。 You feel guilty because they don’t have anyone else to turn to. 他们没有其他可以求助的对象，所以你会有负罪感。 You feel obligated to spend time with them because they’re a mutual friend of your BFF/spouse/family member. 他们也是你男朋友/配偶/家庭成员，所以你觉得有责任要陪着他们。 You’re afraid of how they’ll react if you confront them (a.k.a. more drama). 如果你跟他们正面遭遇，你很怕他们会有的反应（会更戏剧化）。 | 
