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问题：【关于对爱的看法英语文章】
答案：↓↓↓ 樊明辉的回答： 网友采纳 HowtoLove Loveisastrangething.Itcanbethemostamazingfeelingintheworld,oritcanreallyhurt,butintheendloveissomethingmost,ifnotallofus,willface.Whiletherearemanydifferentwaystodefineloveandtherearemanydifferentwaystolovesomeone(evenyourself),hereisageneralguidetoloving. Steps Sayit.Whenyousaythewords"ILoveYou",theyshouldcarrywiththemthedesiretoshowsomeonethatyoulovethem,notwhatyousimplywanttofeel.Whenyousayitmakesureyoureallymeanitandarewillingtodoanythingforthatspecialperson. Empathize.Putyourselfinsomeoneelse'sshoes.Ratherthanimposeyourownexpectationsorattempttocontrolthem,trytounderstandhowtheyfeel,wheretheycomefrom,andwhotheyare.Realizehowtheycouldalsoloveyoubackjustaswell. Loveunconditionally.Ifyoucannotloveanotherpersonwithoutattachingstipulations,thenitisnotloveatall,butdeep-seatedopportunism(onewhomakesthemostofanadvantage,oftenunmindfulofothers).Ifyourinterestisnotintheotherpersonassuch,butratherinhowthatpersoncanenhanceyourexperienceoflife,thenitisnotunconditional.Ifyouhavenointentionofimprovingthatperson鈥檚life,orallowingthatpersontobethemselvesandacceptingthemastheyare,andnotwhoyouwantthemtobe,thenyouarenotstrivingtolovethemunconditionally. Expectnothinginreturn.Thatdoesn'tmeanyoushouldallowsomeonetomistreatorundervalueyou.Itmeansthatgivinglovedoesnotguaranteereceivinglove.Trylovingjustforthesakeoflove.Realizethatsomeonemayhaveadifferentwayofshowinghisorherloveforyou,donotexpecttobelovedbackinexactlythesameway. Realizeitcanbelost.Ifyourealizethatyoucanlosetheoneyoulove,thenyouhaveagreaterappreciationofwhatyouhave.Thinkhowluckyyouaretohavesomeonetolove.Don'tmakeanidolofthepersonyoulove.Thiswillplacethemunderunduepressureandwilllikelyresultinyoulosingthem. Tips Itdoesnotmakeyouabadpersontodesiresomeoneelse'slove,eveniftheydonotloveyou.However,totrulylovesomeone,youmustletthembefree.Itisselfishtoblamethemforyourfeelings. Therearemanytypesoflove,forexample:amother-sonloveisdifferentfromabestfriend'slove,whichisdifferentfromaromanticlove.Don'tbeashamedtotellanyonethatyouloveyourfriendsasmuchasyouloveanyoneelseinyourlife. Youhavetofindsomeonethatwillsuityou,someoneyoufeelcomfortablewith-notjustsomeonetomakeloveto. Asaword,lovecanbefoundworldwideandisoftenusedtodescribecompassionand/oremotionalattachment.Acceptingthoseyouloveforwhotheyareispartoflove.Youalsoneedtolearntoacceptyourselfbeforeyoucanacceptanother.Ifyoucannotloveyourself,howareyoutoloveanother? Lovegenuinely.Donotcompareyourfeelingsnowtowhatyourfeelingswerewhenyouwerewithanothermate.Attimes,wecanexperiencerejection. RealizethatloveisafeelingthatwikiHowcandescribeandattempttoassist,butultimately,youaretheonewhomusttakeactioninordertodiscoverlove. Dothingsthatmaketheotherpersonfeelgood,butdonotsmotherthemwithgiftsandattention. Considersometipsaboutwhatpeopleinlovedo. Peopleinlovearesensitivetoeachother'sneeds,andendeavourtomeetthem | 
