为什么现代恋情大多以失败告终?
<p><span word="Eli">Eli</span> <span word="Finkel">Finkel</span>, <span word="a">a</span> <span word="US">US</span> <span word="university">university</span> <span word="professor">professor</span> <span word="specialising">specialising</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="social">social</span> <span word="psychology">psychology</span> <span word="reckons">reckons</span> <span word="there">there</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="very">very</span> <span word="common">common</span> <span word="reason">reason</span> <span word="modern">modern</span> <span word="relationships">relationships</span> <span word="fail">fail</span> - <span word="and">and</span> <span word="it">it</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="expectations">expectations</span>. <span word="In">In</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="interview">interview</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="The">The</span> <span word="Atlantic">Atlantic</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="book">book</span> <span word="The">The</span> <span word="All">All</span>-<span word="or">or</span>-<span word="Nothing">Nothing</span> <span word="Marriage">Marriage</span>, <span word="Finkel">Finkel</span> <span word="explained">explained</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="considers">considers</span> <span word="many">many</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="relationships">relationships</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="idealistic">idealistic</span>.</p><p>以利·芬克尔（<span word="Eli">Eli</span> <span word="Finkel">Finkel</span>）是美国一所大学的教授，专攻社会心理学。他认为现代恋情之所以失败存在一个普遍原因--都是因为我们的期望。在《太平洋月刊》（<span word="The">The</span> <span word="Atlantic">Atlantic</span>）对其新书<span word="The">The</span> <span word="All">All</span>-<span word="or">or</span>-<span word="Nothing">Nothing</span> <span word="Marriage">Marriage</span>进行采访的过程中，芬克尔解释道，他认为很多恋爱中的人都过于理想化。</p><p><span word="Basically">Basically</span>, <span word="rather">rather</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="content">content</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="partner">partner</span> <span word="provides">provides</span> <span word="us">us</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="spare">spare</span> <span word="pair">pair</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="hands">hands</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="sort">sort</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="home">home</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="go">go</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="daily">daily</span> <span word="lives">lives</span>, <span word="we">we</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="expecting">expecting</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="everything">everything</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="us">us</span>. <span word="We">We</span> <span word="are">are</span>, <span word="he">he</span> <span word="reckons">reckons</span>, <span word="demanding">demanding</span> <span word="WAY">WAY</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="much">much</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="them">them</span>. <span word="A">A</span> <span word="lot">lot</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="modern">modern</span> <span word="couples">couples</span> <span word="expect">expect</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="significant">significant</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="love">love</span> <span word="them">them</span>, <span word="duh">duh</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="also">also</span> <span word="to">to</span> '<span word="help">help</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="grow">grow</span>' <span word="and">and</span> <span word="become">become</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="best">best</span> <span word="selves">selves</span>.</p><p>基本说来，我们不仅满足于另一半在家庭生活、日常生活中帮助我们，而且还期待他们成为我们的一切。他认为，我们对另一半的要求太多了。很多现代情侣都希望他们的另一半爱他们，但同时也期望另一半能'帮助他们成长'，成为最好的自己。</p>
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