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<p>对事情要求高是一回事，但完美主义就是另一回事了。</p><p>而学界已经有不少研究发现，完美主义在很多方面实际上是严重有害的，不管是生理还是心理上。</p><p><span word="According">According</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="researchers">researchers</span>, <span word="perfectionists">perfectionists</span> <span word="hold">hold</span> <span word="themselves">themselves</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="unrealistically">unrealistically</span> <span word="high">high</span> <span word="standards">standards</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="become">become</span> <span word="self">self</span>-<span word="critical">critical</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="believe">believe</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="haven">haven</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="met">met</span> <span word="these">these</span> <span word="standards">standards</span>.</p><p>用研究者们的话来说，完美主义者会给自己设定高到不切实际的标准，而如果他们觉得自己没有达到这些标准就会变得很自责。</p><p><span word="Perfectionists">Perfectionists</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="also">also</span> <span word="likely">likely</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="guilt">guilt</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="shame">shame</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="experience">experience</span> <span word="failures">failures</span>, <span word="which">which</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="leads">leads</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="avoid">avoid</span> <span word="situations">situations</span> <span word="where">where</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="worried">worried</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="fail">fail</span>.</p><p>完美主义者还有可能因为失败而感到内疚，这通常会导致他们回避那些可能让自己失败的情况。</p><p>在2016年发表的一篇文章中，研究者们研究了完美主义和抑郁症长久以来的关联。</p><p>他们发现那些完美主义倾向更高的人更有可能发抑郁症，也就是说完美主义可能是抑郁症的风险因素。</p><p>那么，怎样才能对抗完美主义呢？</p><p>心理学家们指出，那些深受完美主义之苦的人首先需要明白：放弃完美主义并不等同于失败。</p><p><span word="In">In</span> <span word="fact">fact</span>, <span word="because">because</span> <span word="mistakes">mistakes</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="important">important</span> <span word="part">part</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="learning">learning</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="growing">growing</span>, <span word="embracing">embracing</span> <span word="imperfection">imperfection</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="actually">actually</span> <span word="help">help</span> <span word="us">us</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="long">long</span> <span word="run">run</span>.</p>
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