只要认识到一点就能化敌为友
<p><span word="Turn">Turn</span> <span word="Enemies">Enemies</span> <span word="into">into</span> <span word="Friends">Friends</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="One">One</span> <span word="Little">Little</span> <span word="Acknowledgment">Acknowledgment</span></p><p>只要认识到一点就能化敌为友</p><p><span word="Hope">Hope</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="may">may</span>, <span word="you">you</span>’<span word="re">re</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="going">going</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="love">love</span> <span word="every">every</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="meet">meet</span>. <span word="In">In</span> <span word="fact">fact</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="outright">outright</span> <span word="hate">hate</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="few">few</span>—<span word="but">but</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="don">don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span>. <span word="A">A</span> <span word="study">study</span> <span word="coming">coming</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="University">University</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="Groningen">Groningen</span> <span word="indicates">indicates</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="little">little</span> <span word="shift">shift</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="way">way</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="approach">approach</span> <span word="disliked">disliked</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="could">could</span> <span word="alleviate">alleviate</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="lot">lot</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="those">those</span> <span word="negative">negative</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span>.</p><p>虽然你会希望能爱上所见到的每一个人，但事实却并非如此。事实上，你可能会十分讨厌一些人----但其实你不必讨厌这些人。格罗宁根大学的一项研究表明只要你在接触你不喜欢的人时，稍微改变一下方式，就可以减轻很多的负面情感。</p><p><span word="Dr">Dr</span>. <span word="Susan">Susan</span> <span word="Krauss">Krauss</span> <span word="Whitbourne">Whitbourne</span>, <span word="writing">writing</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="Psychology">Psychology</span> <span word="Today">Today</span>, <span word="examined">examined</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="study">study</span> <span word="conducted">conducted</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="psychologist">psychologist</span> <span word="Melvyn">Melvyn</span> <span word="Hamstra">Hamstra</span> (<span word="and">and</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="colleagues">colleagues</span>) <span word="that">that</span> <span word="looked">looked</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="how">how</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="biases">biases</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="opinions">opinions</span> <span word="color">color</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="way">way</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="judge">judge</span> <span word="others">others</span>. <span word="They">They</span> <span word="found">found</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="meet">meet</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="lot">lot</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="common">common</span> <span word="with">with</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="tend">tend</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="effort">effort</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="them">them</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="opposite">opposite</span> <span word="goes">goes</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="don">don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="much">much</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="common">common</span> <span word="with">with</span>: <span word="you">you</span>’<span word="ll">ll</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="effort">effort</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="avoid">avoid</span> <span word="them">them</span>.</p><p>为《今日心理》写作的苏珊.克劳斯.惠特伯恩博士检测了一项研究，该研究是由心理学家梅尔文.汉姆斯塔（及其同事）开展的，研究我们的偏见和观点是如何歪曲我们对别人判断的。他们发现，当你与有很多共同点的人见面时，你会试图尽力去更喜欢这个人。但如果你与没有什么共同点的人见面，情况就恰恰相反：你会尽力去避免他。</p>
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