不争执不对立:正确处理同事间争执
<p><span word="Not">Not</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="conflict">conflict</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="bad">bad</span>. <span word="When">When</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="disagreement">disagreement</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="things">things</span>, <span word="processes">processes</span>, <span word="or">or</span> <span word="tasks">tasks</span>, <span word="getting">getting</span> <span word="into">into</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="quite">quite</span> <span word="productive">productive</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="becomes">becomes</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="personal">personal</span> <span word="issue">issue</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="another">another</span> <span word="person">person</span>, <span word="it">it</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="damage">damage</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="working">working</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="career">career</span>.</p><p>并不是所有冲突都不好。当事情、流程或任务出现分歧时,深入讨论会很有成效。但如果是与别人的私人问题,争执会伤害你的人际关系和事业。</p><p><span word="Even">Even</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="party">party</span> <span word="is">is</span> “<span word="wrong">wrong</span>” <span word="and">and</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="are">are</span> “<span word="right">right</span>” (<span word="though">though</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="less">less</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="case">case</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="think">think</span>!), <span word="your">your</span> <span word="actions">actions</span> <span word="impact">impact</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="situation">situation</span>… <span word="for">for</span> <span word="better">better</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="worse">worse</span>. <span word="For">For</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="most">most</span> <span word="productive">productive</span> <span word="outcome">outcome</span>, <span word="try">try</span> <span word="going">going</span> <span word="through">through</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="following">following</span> <span word="steps">steps</span> <span word="before">before</span> <span word="resorting">resorting</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="negative">negative</span> <span word="coping">coping</span> <span word="strategies">strategies</span>:</p><p>即使对方是“错误的”,你是“正确的”(虽然这种情况发生的频率比我们想的更少),你的行动会影响事态——变得更好或者更糟。为了最有效的结果,在用消极的应对策略前尝试以下步骤:</p><p>1. <span word="Find">Find</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="Positive">Positive</span></p><p>1. 找到积极的一面</p><p><span word="When">When</span> <span word="seething">seething</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="hate">hate</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="anger">anger</span>, <span word="it">it</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="much">much</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="likely">likely</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="cross">cross</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="line">line</span>, <span word="or">or</span> <span word="otherwise">otherwise</span> <span word="exercise">exercise</span> <span word="poor">poor</span> <span word="judgment">judgment</span>. <span word="Get">Get</span> <span word="control">control</span> <span word="over">over</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="emotions">emotions</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="thinking">thinking</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="has">has</span> <span word="done">done</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="past">past</span>, <span word="considering">considering</span> <span word="why">why</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="maintain">maintain</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="future">future</span>, <span word="and">and</span> (<span word="cliche">cliche</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="sounds">sounds</span>) <span word="finding">finding</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="bright">bright</span> <span word="side">side</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="situation">situation</span>.</p><p>当怀着满腔仇恨或愤怒时,我们更有可能失去理智或者判断失误。想想这个人以前做的好事,考虑下你为什么想和他保持良好的关系,以及(听着像陈词滥调)找到事情积极的方面,这样能控制住你的情绪。</p>
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