你真的会经营感情吗？警惕10个坏习惯毁了爱情
<p><span word="Ever">Ever</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span> <span word="suffers">suffers</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="unique">unique</span> <span word="brand">brand</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="frustration">frustration</span>, <span word="tension">tension</span>, <span word="distance">distance</span>, <span word="or">or</span> <span word="any">any</span> <span word="number">number</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="troubling">troubling</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span>? <span word="The">The</span> <span word="reality">reality</span> <span word="is">is</span>, <span word="there">there</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="struggle">struggle</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="every">every</span> <span word="romance">romance</span>. "<span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="experiencing">experiencing</span> <span word="disillusionment">disillusionment</span>, <span word="well">well</span>, <span word="join">join</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="human">human</span> <span word="race">race</span>" .</p><p>你是否曾经感觉自己的感情曾经遭受沮丧，紧张，距离或其他负面情绪的困扰？事实是，在每段感情中这些纠结都不可避免。“如果你正在经历这种幻灭，那么说明你和大家都一样” 。</p><p><span word="Hendrix">Hendrix</span>, <span word="author">author</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="best">best</span> <span word="selling">selling</span> <span word="book">book</span>, <span word="Getting">Getting</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="Love">Love</span> <span word="You">You</span> <span word="Want">Want</span>, <span word="started">started</span> <span word="examining">examining</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="question">question</span>, "<span word="why">why</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="couples">couples</span> <span word="fight">fight</span>" <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="late">late</span> 1970<span word="s">s</span>. <span word="After">After</span> <span word="studying">studying</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="working">working</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="thousands">thousands</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="couples">couples</span>, <span word="he">he</span> <span word="has">has</span> <span word="found">found</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="there">there</span> <span word="are">are</span> 10 <span word="common">common</span> <span word="bad">bad</span> <span word="habits">habits</span> <span word="couples">couples</span> <span word="engage">engage</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="relationships">relationships</span> <span word="miserable">miserable</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="lead">lead</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="break">break</span>-<span word="up">up</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="divorce">divorce</span>.</p><p>畅销书《相爱一生》的作者<span word="Hendrix">Hendrix</span>在上世纪70年代末开始研究这个问题，“夫妻间为什么会有争斗”。在对几千对夫妻进行了研究和共事之后，他发现，那些婚姻悲剧的夫妻有10个共同的坏习惯，这可能导致他们分手或离婚。</p><p>1. <span word="Be">Be</span> <span word="critical">critical</span>.</p><p>太严苛。</p><p><span word="Even">Even</span> "<span word="constructive">constructive</span>" <span word="criticism">criticism</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="partner">partner</span> <span word="defensive">defensive</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="reduce">reduce</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="feeling">feeling</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="safety">safety</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span>. <span word="Being">Being</span> <span word="harsh">harsh</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="judgmental">judgmental</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="angry">angry</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="trigger">trigger</span> <span word="a">a</span> "<span word="flight">flight</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="fight">fight</span> <span word="response">response</span>."</p><p>哪怕是“建设性”的批评也会让你的伴侣产生抵触情绪，并降低二人关系之间的安全感。过于严厉和主观，会让愤怒引发一场“战斗或战斗反应”。</p>
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