中国式相亲：相亲犹如交易 浪漫输给现实
<p><span word="BEIJING">BEIJING</span> — <span word="Dating">Dating</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="hard">hard</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="best">best</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="times">times</span>. <span word="In">In</span> <span word="China">China</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="stakes">stakes</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="high">high</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="outset">outset</span>: <span word="the">the</span> <span word="expectation">expectation</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="should">should</span> <span word="lead">lead</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span>; <span word="never">never</span> <span word="mind">mind</span> <span word="love">love</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="love">love</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="sake">sake</span>.</p><p>即使万事俱备，相亲也不是一件容易的事。在中国，相亲从一开始就存在高风险：人们期望一段相亲可以最终带领他们走向婚姻，至于爱情，就显得无关紧要了。</p><p><span word="A">A</span> <span word="friend">friend</span> <span word="recently">recently</span> <span word="went">went</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="blind">blind</span> <span word="date">date</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="Beijing">Beijing</span>. <span word="Arriving">Arriving</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="coffee">coffee</span> <span word="shop">shop</span>, <span word="he">he</span> <span word="found">found</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="only">only</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="girl">girl</span> <span word="but">but</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="mother">mother</span>, <span word="too">too</span>. <span word="Within">Within</span> <span word="minutes">minutes</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="bombarded">bombarded</span> <span word="him">him</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="questions">questions</span>: <span word="What">What</span> <span word="does">does</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="earn">earn</span>? <span word="Where">Where</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="study">study</span>? <span word="Does">Does</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="own">own</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="house">house</span>?</p><p>我的一位朋友最近参加了北京的一场相亲会。当他到达那家咖啡店时，他发现和相亲对象同时出现的还有她的母亲。短短几分钟内那位母亲向他扔出了一连串的问题：你赚多少钱？你从哪里毕业的？你有房子吗？</p><p><span word="Romance">Romance</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="China">China</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="sacrificed">sacrificed</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="practicality">practicality</span>; <span word="dating">dating</span> <span word="has">has</span> <span word="largely">largely</span> <span word="become">become</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="commercial">commercial</span> <span word="transaction">transaction</span>. <span word="In">In</span> <span word="Beijing">Beijing</span> <span word="parents">parents</span> <span word="gather">gather</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="parks">parks</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="introduce">introduce</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="children">children</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="another">another</span>. <span word="Singles">Singles</span>’ <span word="clubs">clubs</span> <span word="set">set</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="according">according</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="requirements">requirements</span> — <span word="height">height</span>, <span word="income">income</span>, <span word="property">property</span>. <span word="And">And</span> <span word="tens">tens</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="thousands">thousands</span> <span word="descend">descend</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="matchmaking">matchmaking</span> <span word="events">events</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="cities">cities</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="Shanghai">Shanghai</span> <span word="looking">looking</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="perfect">perfect</span> <span word="mate">mate</span>.</p><p>在中国，浪漫总是败给现实；相亲从很大程度上已经变成了一种交易。在北京，有许多父母聚集在公园里，把自己的孩子介绍给多位异性。单身俱乐部把客户按照他们的要求进行划分——身高、收入、财产。在上海这样的城市里，成千上万的人们涌向各种相亲活动，期待找到那个完美伴侣。</p>
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