会毁掉你的谈话的坏习惯
<p>为什么他没有再联系我？为什么我的笑话她没有笑？为什么他们不想继续说下去了？你有没有过那种感觉，或许是你做的或说的某个事破坏了你的谈话（甚至使你们的关系恶化！？）。你也许没有朋友或机器能够给你提供建议，但有一些非常普遍存在的错误你应该要注意到。通过一些自我反思和自我认识，至少可以确保你不再对你们这间的交流或是关系造成破坏。</p><p><span word="Let">Let</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="look">look</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="closely">closely</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="four">four</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="bad">bad</span> <span word="habits">habits</span>:</p><p>让我们再仔细看看这四个坏习惯：</p><p>1. <span word="Are">Are</span> <span word="You">You</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="Parrot">Parrot</span>?</p><p><span word="Do">Do</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="find">find</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="paraphrasing">paraphrasing</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="repeating">repeating</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="said">said</span>?<span word="If">If</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="say">say</span>, “<span word="that">that</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="cool">cool</span> <span word="movie">movie</span>!” <span word="do">do</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="say">say</span>, “<span word="Yeah">Yeah</span>, <span word="that">that</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="really">really</span> <span word="cool">cool</span> <span word="movie">movie</span>!”?<span word="Parrots">Parrots</span> <span word="act">act</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="having">having</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="conversation">conversation</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="reality">reality</span>, <span word="they">they</span> <span word="rarely">rarely</span> <span word="actually">actually</span> <span word="offer">offer</span> <span word="anything">anything</span> <span word="substantive">substantive</span>.<span word="Parrots">Parrots</span> <span word="rely">rely</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="echoing">echoing</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="paraphrasing">paraphrasing</span> <span word="others">others</span>.</p><p><span word="Suggestion">Suggestion</span>: <span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="find">find</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="echoing">echoing</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="saying">saying</span>, <span word="try">try</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="offer">offer</span> <span word="substantive">substantive</span> <span word="opinions">opinions</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="observations">observations</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="well">well</span>.</p><p>你是只鹦鹉吗？</p><p>你有没有发现自己只是解释或重复其他人说过的话？如果他们说，“这真是部很棒的电影啊！”你是不是说，“是的，它“确实”是部很棒的电影！”？鹦鹉看起来像是会说话，但事实上，他们很少真正的说过什么实质性的话。鹦鹉靠的是效仿和重复别人的话。</p>
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