喜欢一个人却不敢接近，这是为什么？
<p>如果这个现象说的就是你，那么你的这种依恋类型（<span word="attachment">attachment</span> <span word="style">style</span>）在心理学上被称为害怕逃避型（<span word="fearful">fearful</span> <span word="avoidant">avoidant</span>）</p><p><span word="Individuals">Individuals</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="fearful">fearful</span> <span word="avoidant">avoidant</span> <span word="attachment">attachment</span> <span word="style">style</span> <span word="desire">desire</span> <span word="close">close</span> <span word="relationships">relationships</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="uncomfortable">uncomfortable</span> <span word="relying">relying</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="others">others</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="fear">fear</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="let">let</span> <span word="down">down</span>. <span word="Fearful">Fearful</span> <span word="avoidant">avoidant</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="four">four</span> <span word="key">key</span> <span word="styles">styles</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="attachment">attachment</span> <span word="proposed">proposed</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="psychologist">psychologist</span> <span word="John">John</span> <span word="Bowlby">Bowlby</span>, <span word="who">who</span> <span word="developed">developed</span> <span word="attachment">attachment</span> <span word="theory">theory</span>.</p><p>害怕逃避型依恋的人渴望亲密的关系，但又会因为依赖别人而感到不舒服，并且害怕希望落空。害怕逃避型是心理学家约翰·鲍比提出的4种主要依恋类型之一。约翰·鲍比正是建立了依恋理论的那个人。</p><p>根据依恋理论，每个人婴儿时期和父母的关系，让他们在成长过程中会对别人产生不同的默认期待，总共有4种：</p><p>第一种：安全型依恋</p><p><span word="Secure">Secure</span></p><p><span word="Individuals">Individuals</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="secure">secure</span> <span word="attachment">attachment</span> <span word="style">style</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="comfortable">comfortable</span> <span word="trusting">trusting</span> <span word="others">others</span>. <span word="They">They</span> <span word="see">see</span> <span word="themselves">themselves</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="worthy">worthy</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="love">love</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="support">support</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="confident">confident</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="others">others</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="support">support</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="need">need</span> <span word="help">help</span>.</p><p>安全型依恋的人可以很自然地信任别人。他们觉得自己是值得爱、值得帮助的人，并且他们相信在自己需要帮助的时候会有人来支持自己。</p><p>第二种：焦虑型依恋</p><p><span word="Anxious">Anxious</span></p><p><span word="Anxious">Anxious</span>ly attached individuals want to rely on others, but worry that others won't support them in the way that they want. <span word="Anxious">Anxious</span>ly attached individuals typically have positive evaluations of other people but tend to doubt their self-worth, which causes them to seek out the support of others but also worry about whether their feelings for others will be reciprocated.</p>
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