直男必看：赞美女性的正确方式
<p><span word="Never">Never</span> <span word="neg">neg</span></p><p>不要打压对方</p><p><span word="Negging">Negging</span> – <span word="a">a</span> <span word="favourite">favourite</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="pickup">pickup</span> <span word="artists">artists</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="shady">shady</span> <span word="characters">characters</span> – <span word="is">is</span> <span word="basically">basically</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="insult">insult</span> <span word="disguised">disguised</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="compliment">compliment</span>.</p><p>表面在赞美，实际上却是在侮辱对方，这是把妹达人最喜欢用的伎俩。</p><p><span word="You">You</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="mean">mean</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="neg">neg</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="woman">woman</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="compliment">compliment</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="veer">veer</span> <span word="into">into</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="territory">territory</span>. <span word="For">For</span> <span word="example">example</span>: ‘<span word="You">You</span> <span word="look">look</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="cute">cute</span>! <span word="My">My</span> <span word="gran">gran</span> <span word="has">has</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="exact">exact</span> <span word="same">same</span> <span word="dress">dress</span>!’ <span word="or">or</span> ‘<span word="I">I</span> <span word="adore">adore</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="little">little</span> <span word="snub">snub</span> <span word="nose">nose</span>.’</p><p>有时候你在试图赞美一个女人的时候，无意中也可能贬损了对方。比如：“你看上去真可爱！我奶奶也有一条那样的裙子！”或者“我喜欢你的小蒜头鼻！”</p><p><span word="These">These</span> <span word="are">are</span> ‘<span word="compliments">compliments</span>’ <span word="that">that</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="earn">earn</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="cold">cold</span> <span word="silence">silence</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="woman">woman</span>. <span word="She">She</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="going">going</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="notice">notice</span> <span word="the">the</span> ‘<span word="cute">cute</span>’ <span word="part">part</span>; <span word="it">it</span> <span word="doesn">doesn</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="count">count</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="she">she</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="worried">worried</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="dress">dress</span> <span word="makes">makes</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="look">look</span> <span word="matronly">matronly</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="has">has</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="unfortunate">unfortunate</span> <span word="nose">nose</span>.</p><p>如果你说了这些话，就等着冷场吧。对方不会注意到夸赞她的那部分，只会注意到你在说她穿着老气或者鼻子长得丑。</p><p><span word="There">There</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="plenty">plenty</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="compliment">compliment</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="won">won</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="added">added</span> <span word="effect">effect</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="making">making</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="insecure">insecure</span>.</p><p>可以赞美的方面有很多，你完全可以做到不在赞美时打击对方。</p><p><span word="Don">Don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="joke">joke</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="it">it</span></p><p>别开玩笑</p><p><span word="Flirting">Flirting</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="scary">scary</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="best">best</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="times">times</span>. <span word="You">You</span>’<span word="re">re</span> <span word="making">making</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="vulnerable">vulnerable</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="it">it</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="it">it</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="perfectly">perfectly</span> <span word="natural">natural</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="offset">offset</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="humour">humour</span>. <span word="You">You</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="tease">tease</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="woman">woman</span> <span word="instead">instead</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="complimenting">complimenting</span> <span word="her">her</span> – <span word="but">but</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="earnest">earnest</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="probably">probably</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="best">best</span> <span word="approach">approach</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="comes">comes</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="compliments">compliments</span>. <span word="Women">Women</span> <span word="recognise">recognise</span> <span word="sincerity">sincerity</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="grateful">grateful</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="it">it</span>.</p>
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