Rubbing it in
<p><span word="Reader">Reader</span> <span word="question">question</span>:</p><p><span word="Please">Please</span> <span word="explain">explain</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="sentence">sentence</span>: <span word="Since">Since</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="rub">rub</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="in">in</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="share">share</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="am">am</span> <span word="going">going</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="you">you</span>.</p><p><span word="My">My</span> <span word="comments">comments</span>:</p><p><span word="Sounds">Sounds</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span> <span word="problem">problem</span>.</p><p><span word="First">First</span>, <span word="to">to</span> <span word="paraphrase">paraphrase</span>: “<span word="I">I</span>” <span word="am">am</span> <span word="going">going</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="that">that</span> “<span word="I">I</span>” <span word="did">did</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="her">her</span> – <span word="lest">lest</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="feels">feels</span> <span word="even">even</span> <span word="worse">worse</span>.</p><p><span word="In">In</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="words">words</span>, <span word="that">that</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="hurtful">hurtful</span> <span word="truth">truth</span>.</p><p><span word="For">For</span> <span word="example">example</span>, <span word="he">he</span> <span word="broke">broke</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="girl">girl</span>. <span word="She">She</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="wanted">wanted</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="why">why</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="broke">broke</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="her">her</span>. <span word="He">He</span> <span word="found">found</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="girl">girl</span>, <span word="that">that</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="why">why</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="could">could</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="that">that</span>. <span word="He">He</span> <span word="could">could</span> <span word="tell">tell</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="told">told</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="would">would</span> <span word="probably">probably</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="even">even</span> <span word="worse">worse</span>.</p><p><span word="That">That</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="why">why</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="said">said</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="did">did</span> “<span word="not">not</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="rub">rub</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="in">in</span>” – <span word="this">this</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="key">key</span> <span word="phrase">phrase</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="grasp">grasp</span> <span word="here">here</span> – <span word="and">and</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="means">means</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="intensify">intensify</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="telling">telling</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="blunt">blunt</span> <span word="truth">truth</span>.</p><p><span word="And">And</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="he">he</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="kind">kind</span>.</p><p><span word="Kind">Kind</span>?</p><p><span word="Well">Well</span>, <span word="at">at</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="particular">particular</span> <span word="point">point</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="time">time</span>, <span word="it">it</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="probably">probably</span> <span word="hard">hard</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="imagine">imagine</span> <span word="him">him</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="kind">kind</span> <span word="but">but</span> <span word="time">time</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="heal">heal</span>. <span word="Soon">Soon</span> <span word="enough">enough</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="forget">forget</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="unhappy">unhappy</span> <span word="episode">episode</span>. <span word="She">She</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="find">find</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="boy">boy</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="move">move</span> <span word="on">on</span>.</p><p><span word="Anyways">Anyways</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="am">am</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="making">making</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="example">example</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="illustrate">illustrate</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="point">point</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="rubbing">rubbing</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="in">in</span>. <span word="To">To</span> “<span word="rub">rub</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="in">in</span>”, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="see">see</span>, <span word="is">is</span> <span word="literally">literally</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="rub">rub</span> <span word="salt">salt</span> <span word="into">into</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="wound">wound</span>, <span word="which">which</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="intensify">intensify</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="pain">pain</span> <span word="ten">ten</span> <span word="fold">fold</span>.</p><p><span word="We">We</span> <span word="variously">variously</span> <span word="hear">hear</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="say">say</span> “<span word="Do">Do</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="rub">rub</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="face">face</span>”. <span word="Same">Same</span> <span word="thing">thing</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="win">win</span>, <span word="for">for</span> <span word="instance">instance</span>, <span word="do">do</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="gloat">gloat</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="front">front</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="defeated">defeated</span> <span word="opponent">opponent</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="defeat">defeat</span>, <span word="to">to</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="opponent">opponent</span>, <span word="is">is</span> <span word="embarrassing">embarrassing</span> <span word="enough">enough</span> <span word="without">without</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="keep">keep</span> <span word="pointing">pointing</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="them">them</span>. <span word="So">So</span> <span word="maintain">maintain</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="composure">composure</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="generous">generous</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="victory">victory</span>. <span word="One">One</span> <span word="day">day</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="lose">lose</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="do">do</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="understand">understand</span> – <span word="You">You</span> <span word="won">won</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="winning">winning</span> <span word="opponent">opponent</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="rub">rub</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="face">face</span> <span word="either">either</span>.</p>
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