巧克力实验:找别人帮忙也没那么难为情
<p><span word="Asking">Asking</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="help">help</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="ridiculously">ridiculously</span> <span word="stressful">stressful</span>.</p><p>向别人寻求帮助时可能压力山大.</p><p><span word="What">What</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="bothering">bothering</span> <span word="them">them</span>? <span word="Or">Or</span> <span word="using">using</span> <span word="them">them</span>? <span word="What">What</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="no">no</span>, <span word="or">or</span> <span word="worse">worse</span>, <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="even">even</span> <span word="bother">bother</span> <span word="responding">responding</span>?</p><p>我是不是很烦人?会不会觉得我在利用他的好意?会不会被拒,甚至连鸟都不鸟我?</p><p><span word="Those">Those</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="real">real</span> <span word="possibilities">possibilities</span> (<span word="sorry">sorry</span>). <span word="But">But</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="increase">increase</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="likelihood">likelihood</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="getting">getting</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="help">help</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="need">need</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="having">having</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="deploying">deploying</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="psychologists">psychologists</span> <span word="call">call</span> <span word="the">the</span> "<span word="rule">rule</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="reciprocation">reciprocation</span>."</p><p>这种担心也不是多余的(抱歉哈)。但总有两全其美的做法，让你更有可能得到帮助，帮你的人也乐在其中：心理学家称其为“交互作用法”。</p>
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