学会说“不”
<p><span word="You">You</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="things">things</span> — <span word="or">or</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="things">things</span> — <span word="for">for</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="people">people</span>.</p><p>你不能为所有人成为任何人或做所有事。</p><p><span word="A">A</span> <span word="life">life</span> <span word="without">without</span> <span word="limits">limits</span> <span word="means">means</span> <span word="rarely">rarely</span> <span word="saying">saying</span> "<span word="no">no</span>" <span word="and">and</span> <span word="considering">considering</span> <span word="everyone">everyone</span> <span word="else">else</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span> <span word="before">before</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="own">own</span>. <span word="Not">Not</span> <span word="only">only</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="these">these</span> <span word="people">people</span>-<span word="pleasing">pleasing</span> <span word="habits">habits</span> <span word="wholly">wholly</span> <span word="exhausting">exhausting</span>, <span word="they">they</span> <span word="put">put</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="direct">direct</span> <span word="road">road</span> <span word="toburnout">toburnout</span>, <span word="a">a</span> <span word="major">major</span> <span word="health">health</span> <span word="hazard">hazard</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="its">its</span> <span word="own">own</span> <span word="right">right</span>.</p><p>不设限的人生意味着极少说“不”，把所有其他人的感受放在自己的感受之前。这些取悦他人的习惯不但会让你彻底筋疲力尽，还会让你直接走向崩溃，严重危害你的健康。</p><p><span word="We">We</span> <span word="consulted">consulted</span> <span word="boundaries">boundaries</span> <span word="expert">expert</span> <span word="Chad">Chad</span> <span word="Buck">Buck</span>, <span word="a">a</span> <span word="clinical">clinical</span> <span word="psychologist">psychologist</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="Vanderbilt">Vanderbilt</span> <span word="University">University</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="Work">Work</span>/<span word="Life">Life</span> <span word="Employee">Employee</span> <span word="Assistance">Assistance</span> <span word="Program">Program</span>, <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="life">life</span>-<span word="changing">changing</span> <span word="power">power</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="establishing">establishing</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="clear">clear</span>-<span word="cut">cut</span> <span word="view">view</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="willing">willing</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="tolerate">tolerate</span>. <span word="Below">Below</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="few">few</span> <span word="great">great</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="happen">happen</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="learn">learn</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="set">set</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="own">own</span> <span word="limits">limits</span>:</p><p>我们咨询了范德堡大学“员工工作与生活援助项目”的临床心理学家、设限专家查德·巴克，请他来告诉我们如果能明确自己愿意承受的限度，会给生活带来多大的改变。如果你学会了设限，就会得到以下几点好处：</p><p>1. <span word="You">You</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="self">self</span>-<span word="aware">aware</span>.</p><p>你会更有自知之明。</p><p><span word="Self">Self</span> <span word="awareness">awareness</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="art">art</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="recognizing">recognizing</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="needs">needs</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="own">own</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="tied">tied</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="any">any</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="environment">environment</span>. <span word="Creating">Creating</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="own">own</span> <span word="limitations">limitations</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="inherently">inherently</span> <span word="self">self</span>-<span word="aware">aware</span> <span word="act">act</span> — <span word="and">and</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="incredibly">incredibly</span> <span word="beneficial">beneficial</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="own">own</span> <span word="welfare">welfare</span>.</p>
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