你真的懂得如何道歉吗?
<p><span word="Chances">Chances</span> <span word="are">are</span>, <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="apologize">apologize</span> <span word="plenty">plenty</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="times">times</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="life">life</span>. <span word="And">And</span> <span word="there">there</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="chance">chance</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="also">also</span> <span word="uttered">uttered</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="phrase">phrase</span>, "<span word="I">I</span> <span word="never">never</span> <span word="meant">meant</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="you">you</span>."</p><p>生活中你可能要道歉很多次，而且很有可能说过这句话：“我从没想过要伤害你”。</p><p><span word="Stop">Stop</span> <span word="doing">doing</span> <span word="that">that</span>, <span word="says">says</span> <span word="author">author</span> <span word="Caroline">Caroline</span> <span word="Myss">Myss</span>.</p><p>作者卡罗兰·梅斯说：“别再说那句话了。”</p><p><span word="In">In</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="talk">talk</span> <span word="Myss">Myss</span> ― <span word="a">a</span> <span word="spiritual">spiritual</span> <span word="seeker">seeker</span>, <span word="researcher">researcher</span> ― <span word="took">took</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="topic">topic</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="forgiveness">forgiveness</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="healing">healing</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="explained">explained</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="uncertain">uncertain</span> <span word="terms">terms</span> <span word="why">why</span> "<span word="I">I</span> <span word="never">never</span> <span word="meant">meant</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="you">you</span>" <span word="is">is</span> <span word="never">never</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="sufficient">sufficient</span> <span word="apology">apology</span>, <span word="no">no</span> <span word="matter">matter</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="comes">comes</span> <span word="from">from</span>.</p><p>梅斯是一位精神导师和研究员，她在一次访谈中讲了原谅和疗伤的话题，并且非常明确地解释了为什么“我从没想过要伤害你”这句话永远不适合用来道歉，无论是从谁的嘴里说出来。</p><p>"<span word="Picture">Picture</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="coming">coming</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="saying">saying</span>, '<span word="Wow">Wow</span>, <span word="bummer">bummer</span>. <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="m">m</span> <span word="sorry">sorry</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="this">this</span>, <span word="but">but</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="know">know</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="never">never</span> <span word="meant">meant</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="you">you</span>. <span word="And">And</span>, <span word="hey">hey</span>, <span word="can">can</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="call">call</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="day">day</span>?'" <span word="Myss">Myss</span> <span word="says">says</span>.</p><p>梅斯说：“想象一下，那个人朝你走过来跟你说‘哦，哥们，很抱歉我那样做，但你知道的，我从没想过要伤害你。就这样吧好吗?’”</p><p><span word="As">As</span> <span word="tempting">tempting</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="move">move</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="bury">bury</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="hatchet">hatchet</span>, <span word="that">that</span> <span word="type">type</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="apology">apology</span> <span word="won">won</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="sit">sit</span> <span word="well">well</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="receiving">receiving</span> <span word="end">end</span>. "<span word="That">That</span> <span word="whole">whole</span> <span word="little">little</span> <span word="thing">thing</span> ― '<span word="I">I</span> <span word="never">never</span> <span word="meant">meant</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="you">you</span>' ― <span word="that">that</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="thing">thing</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="forgive">forgive</span>," <span word="she">she</span> <span word="says">says</span>. "<span word="It">It</span> <span word="goes">goes</span> <span word="right">right</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="soul">soul</span>, <span word="that">that</span> <span word="toxic">toxic</span>, <span word="sick">sick</span> <span word="feeling">feeling</span>."</p>
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