对“烂好人”说不，教你如何巧妙拒绝
<p><span word="We">We</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="yes">yes</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="many">many</span> <span word="reasons">reasons</span>. <span word="We">We</span> <span word="seek">seek</span> <span word="validation">validation</span>, <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="needed">needed</span>, <span word="or">or</span> <span word="relied">relied</span> <span word="upon">upon</span>. <span word="We">We</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="people">people</span>. <span word="We">We</span> <span word="care">care</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="give">give</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="ourselves">ourselves</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="families">families</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="friends">friends</span>.</p><p>我们回答“好”的理由有很多。我们寻求确认，想要被需要，或是被依靠。我们都是好人。我们关心他人，所以我们全心对待自己的家人和朋友。</p><p><span word="But">But</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="we">we</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="habit">habit</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="saying">saying</span> <span word="yes">yes</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="often">often</span>, <span word="we">we</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="find">find</span> <span word="ourselves">ourselves</span> <span word="depleted">depleted</span>, <span word="overwhelmed">overwhelmed</span>, <span word="depressed">depressed</span>, <span word="or">or</span> <span word="angry">angry</span>. <span word="I">I</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="I">I</span>'<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="been">been</span> <span word="there">there</span>.</p><p>但是如果我们养成了太频繁说“好，好”的人了。我们就会发现自己竭力耗尽、不堪重负、郁郁寡欢或是生气不已。我这么说是因为我也是这么过来的。</p><p><span word="Learning">Learning</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="protects">protects</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="energy">energy</span>, <span word="time">time</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="priorities">priorities</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="yes">yes</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="guilt">guilt</span>.</p><p>学会说“不”维护自己的精力、时间和优先权。但是我们常常出于愧疚感说“好的”。</p><p>"<span word="Well">Well</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="could">could</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="it">it</span>..."</p><p>“那……我来吧……”</p><p>"<span word="What">What</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="no">no</span>?"</p><p>“如果我说了‘不’他们会怎么想?”</p><p>"<span word="I">I</span> <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="disappoint">disappoint</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="hurt">hurt</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="feelings">feelings</span>..."</p><p>“我不想让他们失望，或是伤害他们的情感……”</p><p><span word="When">When</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="yes">yes</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="obligation">obligation</span>, <span word="we">we</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="taking">taking</span> <span word="care">care</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="ourselves">ourselves</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="end">end</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="disappointing">disappointing</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="hurting">hurting</span> <span word="ourselves">ourselves</span>. <span word="Follow">Follow</span> <span word="these">these</span> <span word="simple">simple</span> <span word="tips">tips</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="help">help</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="love">love</span>:</p>
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