跟人没话聊？这5个简单原则让你迅速摆脱尬聊
<p>对有些人来说，和人聊天简直是一种煎熬。他们对任何交流的机会都唯恐避之不及。一旦碰到躲不过的场合，就开始坐立不安，拼命找话题却又想不出来，或者好不容易接上一句，结果接了还不如不接。而对于身边的人来说，和这些“话题终结者”聊天更是如同上刑一般。</p><p>尬聊不仅会给对方带来诸多苦恼，也限制了自己的社交能力。要解决这个问题，你必须要清楚这一点：</p><p><span word="The">The</span> <span word="key">key</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="better">better</span> <span word="conversationalist">conversationalist</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="attention">attention</span>-<span word="giver">giver</span> <span word="rather">rather</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="attention">attention</span>-<span word="getter">getter</span>. <span word="This">This</span> <span word="means">means</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="begin">begin</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="concentrate">concentrate</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="speaking">speaking</span> <span word="with">with</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="gratifying">gratifying</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="needs">needs</span> <span word="instead">instead</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="own">own</span>.</p><p>想成为侃侃而谈的人，关键是给予关注而不是获得关注。这意味着你要把更多的精力集中在和你讲话的人身上，满足他们的需求而不是自己的需求。</p><p>在此前提下，记住以下5个谈话技巧，就能打破尴尬的沉默，掌握聊天的艺术。</p><p><span word="Use">Use</span> <span word="People">People</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="Names">Names</span> <span word="More">More</span></p><p>多说对方的名字</p><p><span word="We">We</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="likely">likely</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="tune">tune</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="others">others</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="say">say</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="name">name</span>. <span word="Dale">Dale</span> <span word="Carnegie">Carnegie</span>, <span word="an">an</span> <span word="author">author</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="public">public</span> <span word="speaking">speaking</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="interpersonal">interpersonal</span> <span word="skills">skills</span> <span word="books">books</span>, <span word="previously">previously</span> <span word="said">said</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="names">names</span> <span word="are">are</span> “<span word="the">the</span> <span word="sweetest">sweetest</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="most">most</span> <span word="important">important</span> <span word="sound">sound</span>” <span word="to">to</span> <span word="us">us</span>. <span word="In">In</span> <span word="conversation">conversation</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="use">use</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="advantage">advantage</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="asking">asking</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="name">name</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="then">then</span> <span word="dropping">dropping</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="name">name</span> <span word="occasionally">occasionally</span> <span word="throughout">throughout</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="conversation">conversation</span> <span word="later">later</span> <span word="on">on</span>.</p>
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