分手后老想着复合怎么办？先想清楚这9个问题
<p>很多人分手了会后悔当初的决定，纠结要不要复合。有人说，吃回头草绝对是一个糟糕的想法。但也存在这种可能性：分手只是一时冲动，重修旧好反而是件正确的事。那么我们究竟该不该和前任复合呢？关键在于，你必须想清楚为什么和对方复合，以及这些理由是否有足够的说服力。在下定决心之前，你应该仔细思考这些问题。</p><p>1. <span word="Are">Are</span> <span word="You">You</span> <span word="Just">Just</span> <span word="Lonely">Lonely</span>?</p><p>你是否只是太孤独了？</p><p><span word="This">This</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="most">most</span> <span word="important">important</span> <span word="question">question</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="feeling">feeling</span> <span word="lonely">lonely</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="bored">bored</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="listless">listless</span>, <span word="that">that</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="right">right</span> <span word="reason">reason</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="back">back</span> <span word="together">together</span>. <span word="Take">Take</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="knitting">knitting</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="something">something</span>, <span word="it">it</span> <span word="doesn">doesn</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="matter">matter</span>. <span word="Just">Just</span> <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="back">back</span> <span word="together">together</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="reason">reason</span>.</p><p>这是最关键的一点。如果你只是感到“空虚寂寞冷”，那么这不是复合的恰当原因。做点编织或者无论什么其他事情，消磨下时间。如果这真的是你的理由，那最好还是算了。</p><p>2. <span word="Why">Why</span> <span word="Did">Did</span> <span word="You">You</span> <span word="Break">Break</span> <span word="Up">Up</span> <span word="And">And</span> <span word="Is">Is</span> <span word="It">It</span> <span word="Still">Still</span> <span word="A">A</span> <span word="Problem">Problem</span>?</p><p>你还没明白为何分手？</p><p><span word="You">You</span> <span word="need">need</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="really">really</span> <span word="honest">honest</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="reasons">reasons</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="broke">broke</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="whether">whether</span> <span word="they">they</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="actually">actually</span> <span word="been">been</span> <span word="fixed">fixed</span>.</p><p>你必须坦诚地面对分手的原因，想明白那些导致分手的问题是否已经得到解决。</p><p>"<span word="According">According</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="well">well</span>-<span word="known">known</span> <span word="couples">couples</span> <span word="researcher">researcher</span> <span word="Dr">Dr</span>. <span word="John">John</span> <span word="Gottman">Gottman</span>, 69 <span word="percent">percent</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span> <span word="conflict">conflict</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="perpetual">perpetual</span> <span word="problems">problems</span> - <span word="and">and</span> <span word="ALL">ALL</span> <span word="couples">couples</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="them">them</span>," <span word="Pella">Pella</span> <span word="Weisman">Weisman</span>, <span word="Dating">Dating</span> <span word="Coach">Coach</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="Licensed">Licensed</span> <span word="Marriage">Marriage</span> & <span word="Family">Family</span> <span word="Therapist">Therapist</span>, <span word="tells">tells</span> <span word="Bustle">Bustle</span>. "<span word="It">It</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="inevitable">inevitable</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="there">there</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="ongoing">ongoing</span> <span word="issues">issues</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="any">any</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="OK">OK</span>, <span word="as">as</span> <span word="long">long</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="live">live</span> <span word="with">with</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="issues">issues</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="problematic">problematic</span>, <span word="be">be</span> <span word="honest">honest</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="this">this</span>. <span word="Even">Even</span> <span word="better">better</span>, <span word="get">get</span> <span word="an">an</span> <span word="outside">outside</span> <span word="perspective">perspective</span> <span word="from">from</span> <span word="someone">someone</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="trust">trust</span>." <span word="It">It</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="issues">issues</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="big">big</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="work">work</span>.</p>
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