爱情都去哪儿了：致离开前任的你
<p><span word="Opposites">Opposites</span>. <span word="We">We</span> <span word="learn">learn</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="concept">concept</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="kindergarten">kindergarten</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="opposite">opposite</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="down">down</span>, <span word="the">the</span> <span word="opposite">opposite</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="left">left</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="right">right</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="opposite">opposite</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="forwards">forwards</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="backwards">backwards</span>.</p><p>反义词，在幼儿园里我们就学过它。“上”的反义词是“下”。“左”的反义词是“右”，“前”的反义词是“后”。</p><p><span word="What">What</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="asked">asked</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="love">love</span>. <span word="What">What</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="opposite">opposite</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="love">love</span>? <span word="For">For</span> <span word="most">most</span>, <span word="hate">hate</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="comes">comes</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="mind">mind</span>. <span word="Seems">Seems</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="sense">sense</span>, <span word="the">the</span> <span word="opposite">opposite</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="dislike">dislike</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="it">it</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="only">only</span> <span word="natural">natural</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="pattern">pattern</span> <span word="follows">follows</span> <span word="suit">suit</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="grander">grander</span> <span word="scale">scale</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="love">love</span> <span word="vs">vs</span>. <span word="hate">hate</span>.</p><p>如果我问你“爱”的反义词呢。“爱”的反义词是什么呢。大多数人可能会想到“恨”。这似乎很有道理，既然“喜欢”的反义词是“讨厌”，人们很自然的想到，爱是更为强烈的喜欢，它的反义词也就是更强烈的讨厌。</p><p><span word="But">But</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="anymore">anymore</span>, <span word="not">not</span> <span word="even">even</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="slightest">slightest</span>.</p><p>然而并不是这样，完全不是。</p><p><span word="You">You</span> <span word="see">see</span>, <span word="to">to</span> <span word="hate">hate</span> <span word="something">something</span> <span word="means">means</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="devote">devote</span> <span word="energy">energy</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="idea">idea</span>. <span word="You">You</span> <span word="must">must</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="it">it</span>, <span word="agonize">agonize</span> <span word="over">over</span> <span word="it">it</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="bothered">bothered</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="it">it</span>. <span word="I">I</span> <span word="used">used</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="question">question</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="husband">husband</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="why">why</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="Ex">Ex</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="insults">insults</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="actions">actions</span> <span word="never">never</span> <span word="got">got</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="him">him</span>. “<span word="I">I</span> <span word="don">don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="know">know</span>,” <span word="he">he</span>’<span word="d">d</span> <span word="say">say</span>. “<span word="They">They</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="don">don</span>’<span word="t">t</span>. <span word="I">I</span> <span word="don">don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="care">care</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="says">says</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="does">does</span>. <span word="I">I</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="give">give</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="place">place</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="value">value</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="head">head</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="heart">heart</span>.”</p><p>要知道，恨某样东西意味着将自己的注意力投注到这个东西上。你会总想着它，为它感到愤恨，为它而烦恼。过去我常常问我的丈夫，为什么他能对前妻的侮辱乃至人身攻击毫不介意。“我不知道”，他说，“我就是不介意。我不在乎她说什么或者做什么。在我的脑子里和我的心里，她都没有任何位置，没有一点重要性。”</p>
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