让陌生人迅速相爱的36个问题
<p><span word="In">In</span> <span word="Mandy">Mandy</span> <span word="Len">Len</span> <span word="Catron">Catron</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="Modern">Modern</span> <span word="Love">Love</span> <span word="essay">essay</span>, “<span word="To">To</span> <span word="Fall">Fall</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="Love">Love</span> <span word="With">With</span> <span word="Anyone">Anyone</span>, <span word="Do">Do</span> <span word="This">This</span>,” <span word="she">she</span> <span word="refers">refers</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="study">study</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="psychologist">psychologist</span> <span word="Arthur">Arthur</span> <span word="Aron">Aron</span> (<span word="and">and</span> <span word="others">others</span>) <span word="that">that</span> <span word="explores">explores</span> <span word="whether">whether</span> <span word="intimacy">intimacy</span> <span word="between">between</span> <span word="two">two</span> <span word="strangers">strangers</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="accelerated">accelerated</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="having">having</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="ask">ask</span> <span word="each">each</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="specific">specific</span> <span word="series">series</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="personal">personal</span> <span word="questions">questions</span>. <span word="The">The</span> 36 <span word="questions">questions</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="study">study</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="broken">broken</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="into">into</span> <span word="three">three</span> <span word="sets">sets</span>, <span word="with">with</span> <span word="each">each</span> <span word="set">set</span> <span word="intended">intended</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="probing">probing</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="previous">previous</span> <span word="one">one</span>.</p><p>曼迪·莱恩·卡特隆(<span word="Mandy">Mandy</span> <span word="Len">Len</span> <span word="Catron">Catron</span>)为“现代爱情”专栏写了一篇文章《如何快速与陌生人相爱》，她在文中提到心理学家阿瑟·亚伦(<span word="Arthur">Arthur</span> <span word="Aron">Aron</span>)等人的研究成果：两个陌生人之间的亲密关系或许可以通过彼此询问一些特别的个人化问题而快速升温。这36个问题分为三组，一组比一组来得寻根究底。</p><p><span word="The">The</span> <span word="idea">idea</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="mutual">mutual</span> <span word="vulnerability">vulnerability</span> <span word="fosters">fosters</span> <span word="closeness">closeness</span>. <span word="To">To</span> <span word="quote">quote</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="study">study</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="authors">authors</span>, “<span word="One">One</span> <span word="key">key</span> <span word="pattern">pattern</span> <span word="associated">associated</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="development">development</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="close">close</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span> <span word="among">among</span> <span word="peers">peers</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="sustained">sustained</span>, <span word="escalating">escalating</span>, <span word="reciprocal">reciprocal</span>, <span word="personal">personal</span> <span word="self">self</span>-<span word="disclosure">disclosure</span>.” <span word="Allowing">Allowing</span> <span word="oneself">oneself</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="vulnerable">vulnerable</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="another">another</span> <span word="person">person</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="exceedingly">exceedingly</span> <span word="difficult">difficult</span>, <span word="so">so</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="exercise">exercise</span> <span word="forces">forces</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="issue">issue</span>.</p><p>这个理论的核心是，共同的脆弱能促进亲近感。这项研究的作者们称：“同伴之间发展亲密关系的关键模式在于持续、逐步升级、相互且个人化的袒露自我。”允许自己和另一个人共享脆弱可能非常困难，下面这个练习能迫使你做到这一点。</p>
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