智能手机影响夫妻生活
<p><span word="You">You</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="how">how</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="goes">goes</span>: <span word="you">you</span>’<span word="re">re</span> <span word="trying">trying</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="talk">talk</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="grandchildren">grandchildren</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="they">they</span>’<span word="re">re</span> <span word="constantly">constantly</span> <span word="checking">checking</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="beeping">beeping</span> <span word="phones">phones</span>. ‘<span word="I">I</span>’<span word="m">m</span> <span word="listening">listening</span> . . . ’ <span word="they">they</span> <span word="insist">insist</span>. <span word="Except">Except</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="only">only</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="well">well</span> <span word="they">they</span>’<span word="re">re</span> <span word="not">not</span>.</p><p><span word="At">At</span> <span word="home">home</span>, <span word="over">over</span> <span word="dinner">dinner</span>, <span word="you">you</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="catch">catch</span> <span word="up">up</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="husband">husband</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="he">he</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="busy">busy</span> <span word="checking">checking</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="emails">emails</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="his">his</span> <span word="iPad">iPad</span>. <span word="He">He</span> <span word="says">says</span> ‘<span word="Yes">Yes</span>’ <span word="every">every</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="but">but</span>, <span word="again">again</span>, <span word="his">his</span> <span word="attention">attention</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="obviously">obviously</span> <span word="elsewhere">elsewhere</span>.</p><p><span word="Part">Part</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="wonders">wonders</span> <span word="who">who</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="messaging">messaging</span> <span word="him">him</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="often">often</span>. <span word="You">You</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="pang">pang</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="mistrust">mistrust</span>; <span word="maybe">maybe</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="don">don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="even">even</span> <span word="kiss">kiss</span> <span word="him">him</span> <span word="goodnight">goodnight</span>.</p><p><span word="Then">Then</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="occurs">occurs</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="put">put</span> <span word="an">an</span> ‘<span word="X">X</span>’ <span word="at">at</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="end">end</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="text">text</span> <span word="messages">messages</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="each">each</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="kiss">kiss</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="real">real</span> <span word="life">life</span>.</p><p><span word="For">For</span> <span word="many">many</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="us">us</span>, <span word="this">this</span> <span word="behaviour">behaviour</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="slowly">slowly</span> <span word="becoming">becoming</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="normal">normal</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="shouldn">shouldn</span>’<span word="t">t</span>: <span word="because">because</span> <span word="technology">technology</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="destroying">destroying</span> <span word="real">real</span> <span word="intimacy">intimacy</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="relationships">relationships</span>.</p><p><span word="I">I</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="been">been</span> <span word="studying">studying</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="digital">digital</span> <span word="world">world</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="senior">senior</span> <span word="researcher">researcher</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="University">University</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="Brighton">Brighton</span> <span word="since">since</span> 1990, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="six">six</span> <span word="years">years</span> <span word="ago">ago</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="started">started</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="notice">notice</span> <span word="myself">myself</span> <span word="spending">spending</span> <span word="too">too</span> <span word="long">long</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="smartphone">smartphone</span>: <span word="hours">hours</span> <span word="online">online</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="night">night</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="constantly">constantly</span> <span word="responding">responding</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="day">day</span>, <span word="even">even</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="surrounded">surrounded</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="friends">friends</span>.</p><p><span word="I">I</span> <span word="realised">realised</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="beginning">beginning</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="addicted">addicted</span> — <span word="and">and</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="wasn">wasn</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="only">only</span> <span word="one">one</span>. <span word="So">So</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="began">began</span> <span word="studying">studying</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="effects">effects</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="virtual">virtual</span> <span word="lives">lives</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="physical">physical</span> <span word="relationships">relationships</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="since">since</span> <span word="spoken">spoken</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="hundreds">hundreds</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="couples">couples</span> <span word="whose">whose</span> <span word="partnerships">partnerships</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="been">been</span> <span word="threatened">threatened</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="addiction">addiction</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="technology">technology</span>.</p><p><span word="For">For</span> <span word="some">some</span>, <span word="the">the</span> <span word="cause">cause</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="call">call</span> ‘<span word="wretched">wretched</span> <span word="contentment">contentment</span>’: <span word="spending">spending</span> <span word="evenings">evenings</span> <span word="watching">watching</span> <span word="TV">TV</span>, <span word="all">all</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="while">while</span> <span word="constantly">constantly</span> <span word="checking">checking</span> <span word="phones">phones</span> <span word="without">without</span> <span word="talking">talking</span>. <span word="It">It</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="pleasant">pleasant</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="it">it</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="fulfilling">fulfilling</span>.</p>
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