meili 发表于 2022-10-18 21:30:41

关于婚姻 我想对女儿说的十件事

<p><span word="I">I</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="two">two</span> <span word="daughters">daughters</span>. <span word="Norah">Norah</span> <span word="is">is</span> 4 <span word="and">and</span> <span word="Aspen">Aspen</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="just">just</span> 3 <span word="months">months</span>. <span word="Their">Their</span> <span word="lives">lives</span> <span word="look">look</span> <span word="very">very</span> <span word="different">different</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="mine">mine</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="as">as</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="child">child</span>. <span word="My">My</span> <span word="father">father</span> <span word="left">left</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="a">a</span> 9 <span word="years">years</span> <span word="old">old</span>. <span word="I">I</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="raised">raised</span> <span word="half">half</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="single">single</span> <span word="mother">mother</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="half">half</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="widowed">widowed</span> <span word="grandmother">grandmother</span>. <span word="When">When</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="got">got</span> <span word="married">married</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="didn">didn</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="much">much</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="meant">meant</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="learn">learn</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="lot">lot</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="through">through</span> <span word="trial">trial</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="error">error</span>.</p><p><span word="Even">Even</span> <span word="at">at</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="young">young</span> <span word="age">age</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="think">think</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="lot">lot</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="daughters">daughters</span>’ <span word="future">future</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="whether">whether</span> <span word="I">I</span>’<span word="m">m</span> <span word="setting">setting</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="better">better</span> <span word="example">example</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="had">had</span>. <span word="Below">Below</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="list">list</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="I">I</span>’<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="learned">learned</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="I">I</span>’<span word="d">d</span> <span word="like">like</span> <span word="them">them</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="know">know</span>.</p><p>(<span word="Author">Author</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="Note">Note</span>: <span word="I">I</span> <span word="know">know</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="views">views</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="changing">changing</span>. <span word="This">This</span> <span word="list">list</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="based">based</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="my">my</span> <span word="own">own</span> <span word="experience">experience</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="straight">straight</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span> <span word="because">because</span> <span word="it">it</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="know">know</span>.)</p><p><span word="Don">Don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="let">let</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="husband">husband</span> <span word="pressure">pressure</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="into">into</span> <span word="sex">sex</span>: <span word="Most">Most</span> <span word="likely">likely</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="husband">husband</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="sex">sex</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="expect">expect</span>. <span word="Don">Don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="let">let</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="husband">husband</span> <span word="pressure">pressure</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="into">into</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="comfortable">comfortable</span> <span word="with">with</span>. <span word="Talk">Talk</span> <span word="openly">openly</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="sex">sex</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="him">him</span>. <span word="Discuss">Discuss</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="expectations">expectations</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="try">try</span> <span word="hard">hard</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="understand">understand</span> <span word="his">his</span>. <span word="Although">Although</span> <span word="sex">sex</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="important">important</span>, <span word="be">be</span> <span word="sure">sure</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="both">both</span> <span word="realize">realize</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="it">it</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="only">only</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="part">part</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span>, <span word="it">it</span> <span word="isn">isn</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="whole">whole</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span>.</p><p><span word="Don">Don</span>’<span word="t">t</span> <span word="lower">lower</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="expectations">expectations</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="husband">husband</span> <span word="after">after</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span>. <span word="Raise">Raise</span> <span word="them">them</span>: <span word="After">After</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span>, <span word="it">it</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="easy">easy</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="comfortable">comfortable</span>. <span word="I">I</span>’<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="never">never</span> <span word="understood">understood</span> <span word="why">why</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="happens">happens</span>, <span word="because">because</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="hardest">hardest</span> <span word="thing">thing</span> <span word="I">I</span>’<span word="ve">ve</span> <span word="ever">ever</span> <span word="done">done</span>. <span word="It">It</span>’<span word="s">s</span> <span word="easy">easy</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="let">let</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="slide">slide</span> <span word="after">after</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span>. <span word="To">To</span> <span word="expect">expect</span> <span word="fewer">fewer</span> <span word="dates">dates</span>, <span word="fewer">fewer</span> <span word="flowers">flowers</span>, <span word="fewer">fewer</span> <span word="love">love</span> <span word="letters">letters</span>. <span word="Don">Don</span>’<span word="t">t</span>. <span word="In">In</span> <span word="fact">fact</span>, <span word="expect">expect</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="get">get</span> <span word="it">it</span>. <span word="And">And</span> <span word="do">do</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="same">same</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="him">him</span>. <span word="Once">Once</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="children">children</span>, <span word="those">those</span> <span word="little">little</span> <span word="trinkets">trinkets</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="affection">affection</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="only">only</span> <span word="things">things</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="keep">keep</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span> <span word="above">above</span> <span word="water">water</span>.</p>
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