单身的你很郁闷？科学帮你解开心结！
<p>"<span word="You">You</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="so">so</span> <span word="great">great</span> -- <span word="why">why</span> <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="boyfriend">boyfriend</span>?"</p><p>“你这么好，怎么会没有男朋友？”</p><p><span word="This">This</span> <span word="misguided">misguided</span> <span word="compliment">compliment</span>, <span word="often">often</span> <span word="doled">doled</span> <span word="out">out</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="young">young</span> <span word="successful">successful</span> <span word="women">women</span>, <span word="has">has</span> <span word="given">given</span> <span word="birth">birth</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="new">new</span> <span word="thought">thought</span> <span word="experiment">experiment</span>: <span word="If">If</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="woman">woman</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="great">great</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="no">no</span> <span word="romantic">romantic</span> <span word="partner">partner</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="there">there</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="appreciate">appreciate</span> <span word="her">her</span>, <span word="can">can</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="still">still</span> <span word="lead">lead</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="happy">happy</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="fulfilling">fulfilling</span> <span word="life">life</span>?</p><p>人们常常在舆论的误导作用下，将这种恭维话“施舍”给单身成功女性，由此我们提出了一个新的思维实验课题：如果一位女性品貌甚佳，却没有情人来欣赏，她是否仍能生活的快乐而充实呢?</p><p><span word="Women">Women</span> <span word="often">often</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="bad">bad</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="single">single</span>, <span word="despite">despite</span> <span word="how">how</span> <span word="satisfying">satisfying</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="lives">lives</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="otherwise">otherwise</span>.</p><p>无论一位女性对生活的其他方面如何满意，单身的感情状况总是会让她感到郁闷。</p><p><span word="Turns">Turns</span> <span word="out">out</span>, <span word="there">there</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="few">few</span> <span word="reasons">reasons</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="feel">feel</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="romantic">romantic</span> <span word="ennui">ennui</span>:</p><p>实际上，你的“单身厌烦症”可能是出于以下几点原因。</p><p><span word="you">you</span> <span word="may">may</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="prioritizing">prioritizing</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="really">really</span> <span word="want">want</span>.</p><p>你没有首先考虑自己想要的是什么。</p><p><span word="Allowing">Allowing</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="other">other</span> <span word="people">people</span> <span word="want">want</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="cloud">cloud</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="judgement">judgement</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="send">send</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="down">down</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="dark">dark</span>, "<span word="I">I</span>'<span word="m">m</span> <span word="dying">dying</span> <span word="alone">alone</span>" <span word="spiral">spiral</span>. <span word="Global">Global</span> <span word="surveys">surveys</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="found">found</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="cultural">cultural</span> <span word="norms">norms</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="expectations">expectations</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="determine">determine</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="self">self</span>-<span word="esteem">esteem</span>, <span word="even">even</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="claim">claim</span> <span word="we">we</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="above">above</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="pressure">pressure</span>.<span word="The">The</span> <span word="truth">truth</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="marriage">marriage</span> <span word="won">won</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="make">make</span> <span word="everyone">everyone</span> <span word="happier">happier</span>.</p><p>服从他人对你的期望，使自己的判断力受到遮蔽，这会使你越来越觉得“我会孤独终老”，在这种想法的泥潭里越陷越深。全球范围内的研究结果显示，我们的自尊心是由文化规范和社会期待所决定的，即使我们声称自己不受这两者影响。事实上，结婚成家并不一定会使人更幸福。</p>
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