为啥妈妈老嫌爸爸家务干得少
<p><span word="Several">Several</span> <span word="years">years</span> <span word="ago">ago</span>, <span word="while">while</span> <span word="observing">observing</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="parenting">parenting</span> <span word="group">group</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="Minnesota">Minnesota</span>, <span word="I">I</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="struck">struck</span> <span word="by">by</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="confession">confession</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="women">women</span> <span word="made">made</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="peers">peers</span>: <span word="She">She</span> <span word="didn">didn</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="really">really</span> <span word="care">care</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="husband">husband</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="dishes">dishes</span> <span word="after">after</span> <span word="dinner">dinner</span>. <span word="Sure">Sure</span>, <span word="it">it</span> <span word="was">was</span> <span word="swell">swell</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="him">him</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="had">had</span> <span word="friends">friends</span> <span word="whose">whose</span> <span word="husbands">husbands</span> <span word="did">did</span> <span word="less">less</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="she">she</span> <span word="really">really</span> <span word="wanted">wanted</span>, <span word="at">at</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="point">point</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="day">day</span>, <span word="was">was</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="husband">husband</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="volunteer">volunteer</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="put">put</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="kids">kids</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="bed">bed</span>. <span word="She">She</span> <span word="would">would</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="been">been</span> <span word="glad">glad</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="sit">sit</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="kitchen">kitchen</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="own">own</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="few">few</span> <span word="minutes">minutes</span> <span word="with">with</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="water">water</span> <span word="running">running</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="her">her</span> <span word="mind">mind</span> <span word="wandering">wandering</span>. <span word="Another">Another</span> <span word="woman">woman</span> <span word="chimed">chimed</span> <span word="in">in</span>: '<span word="Totally">Totally</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="dishes">dishes</span> <span word="don">don</span>'<span word="t">t</span> <span word="talk">talk</span> <span word="back">back</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="you">you</span>.'</p><p>几年前，我在明尼苏达州观摩过一个育儿组织的讨论会，一位女士对其他成员坦陈心迹对我触动颇深。她说，她丈夫晚饭后刷盘子，但她一点也不觉得高兴。当然，他能刷盘子很了不起，她有一些朋友的丈夫家务做得更少。但晚饭之后她真正希望丈夫去做的事情是主动哄孩子睡觉。如果能一个人在厨房里坐几分钟，在水流声中发发呆，她会感到很高兴。另一位女士接过话头：“完全正确。盘子不会跟你顶嘴。”</p><p><span word="According">According</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="American">American</span> <span word="Time">Time</span> <span word="Use">Use</span> <span word="Survey">Survey</span>-<span word="which">which</span> <span word="asks">asks</span> <span word="thousands">thousands</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="Americans">Americans</span> <span word="annually">annually</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="chronicle">chronicle</span> <span word="how">how</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="spend">spend</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="days">days</span>-<span word="men">men</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="women">women</span> <span word="now">now</span> <span word="work">work</span> <span word="roughly">roughly</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="same">same</span> <span word="number">number</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="hours">hours</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="week">week</span> (<span word="though">though</span> <span word="men">men</span> <span word="work">work</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="paid">paid</span> <span word="hours">hours</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="women">women</span> <span word="more">more</span> <span word="unpaid">unpaid</span>). <span word="Given">Given</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="balanced">balanced</span> <span word="ledger">ledger</span>, <span word="one">one</span> <span word="might">might</span> <span word="guess">guess</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="would">would</span> <span word="finally">finally</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="quiet">quiet</span> <span word="on">on</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="domestic">domestic</span> <span word="front">front</span>-<span word="that">that</span> <span word="women">women</span> <span word="would">would</span> <span word="finally">finally</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="stopped">stopped</span> <span word="wondering">wondering</span> <span word="how">how</span> <span word="they">they</span>, <span word="rather">rather</span> <span word="than">than</span> <span word="their">their</span> <span word="husbands">husbands</span>, <span word="got">got</span> <span word="suckered">suckered</span> <span word="into">into</span> <span word="such">such</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="heavy">heavy</span> <span word="load">load</span>. <span word="But">But</span> <span word="they">they</span> <span word="haven">haven</span>'<span word="t">t</span>. <span word="The">The</span> <span word="question">question</span> <span word="is">is</span>: <span word="Why">Why</span>?</p>
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