导致情侣关系破裂的5个原因
<p><span word="I">I</span> <span word="hope">hope</span> <span word="you">you</span>'<span word="ll">ll</span> <span word="excuse">excuse</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="pointed">pointed</span> <span word="title">title</span>, <span word="and">and</span> <span word="I">I</span> <span word="sincerely">sincerely</span> <span word="hope">hope</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="falling">falling</span> <span word="apart">apart</span>, <span word="but">but</span> <span word="if">if</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="have">have</span> <span word="ever">ever</span> <span word="found">found</span> <span word="yourself">yourself</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="dire">dire</span> <span word="straits">straits</span> <span word="in">in</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span> (<span word="as">as</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="do">do</span>), <span word="chances">chances</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="that">that</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="trouble">trouble</span> <span word="can">can</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="traced">traced</span> <span word="back">back</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="one">one</span> <span word="or">or</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="few">few</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="these">these</span> <span word="issues">issues</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="relationship">relationship</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="all">all</span> <span word="rainbows">rainbows</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="sunshine">sunshine</span> <span word="dust">dust</span>, <span word="fantastic">fantastic</span>—<span word="this">this</span> <span word="list">list</span> <span word="will">will</span> <span word="just">just</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="some">some</span> <span word="good">good</span> <span word="food">food</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="thought">thought</span>.</p><p>我由衷希望读者能够原谅这唐突的标题，也希望你们的感情并未破裂，但如果属于你的这段关系正处于困境（我们所有人都会经历），你仍然可以抓住机会追溯其中的一个或数个同类问题来解决麻烦。可如果你的感情一片光明美好，妙极了---这些建议还能给你补充思想的能量。</p><p><span word="You">You</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="listening">listening</span></p><p>你没有用心听</p><p><span word="I">I</span>'<span word="m">m</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="talking">talking</span> <span word="about">about</span> <span word="you">you</span> <span word="being">being</span> <span word="glued">glued</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="TV">TV</span> <span word="while">while</span> <span word="your">your</span> <span word="partner">partner</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="pouring">pouring</span> <span word="his">his</span>/<span word="her">her</span> <span word="heart">heart</span> <span word="out">out</span>. <span word="If">If</span> <span word="that">that</span>'<span word="s">s</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="case">case</span>, <span word="it">it</span> <span word="should">should</span> <span word="be">be</span> <span word="pretty">pretty</span> <span word="obvious">obvious</span> <span word="there">there</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="a">a</span> <span word="problem">problem</span>.</p><p>我并不是说当你的伴侣在诉说衷肠时，你却一头扎进电视里。如果真是这样，那问题就再明显不过了。</p><p><span word="Many">Many</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="us">us</span> <span word="believe">believe</span> <span word="we">we</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="listening">listening</span> <span word="when">when</span> <span word="what">what</span> <span word="we">we</span>'<span word="re">re</span> <span word="actually">actually</span> <span word="doing">doing</span> <span word="is">is</span> <span word="anxiously">anxiously</span> <span word="and">and</span> <span word="impatiently">impatiently</span> <span word="waiting">waiting</span> <span word="for">for</span> <span word="our">our</span> <span word="turn">turn</span> <span word="to">to</span> <span word="speak">speak</span>. <span word="When">When</span> <span word="we">we</span> “<span word="listen">listen</span>” <span word="from">from</span> <span word="this">this</span> <span word="perspective">perspective</span>, <span word="we">we</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="not">not</span> <span word="truly">truly</span> <span word="listening">listening</span>: <span word="we">we</span> <span word="are">are</span> <span word="resisting">resisting</span> <span word="the">the</span> <span word="anger">anger</span>, <span word="despair">despair</span>, <span word="anxiety">anxiety</span>, <span word="fear">fear</span> <span word="etc">etc</span>. <span word="inside">inside</span> <span word="of">of</span> <span word="us">us</span>.</p><p>当我们正在焦虑又不耐烦地等发言机会时，大多数人都一口咬定自己正在倾听。若我们持续这个状态，那我们就并非真正地在倾听：只是在拒绝内心的愤怒、焦躁、恐惧等等。</p>
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